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If it was a weekend it would be a few days. A workday surely by noon if they hadn't heard from me. I've been sick and had coworkers stop by and check on me if I haven't replied to text or phone calls.

I don't think this shows how much people care about me. This would show how much people depend on me. I'm the breadwinner and major organizer of my family. They'd fall apart within hours.

By the first evening by 9pm, when they didn't get dinner.

I would take that "we don't care" as an invitation to leave and start a new life with people who do care. Nobody should say that out loud, what assholes, but since they don't need you, you are free.

I don't leave the secure area much, but I get the question.

I have an airtag on my keys and my wife probably has geofencing because I don't go far. She'll have the cops on the phone inside of 2 blocks. This area has a Lot of cameras so they'll have a leg up. And until they go through my pockets and ditch the air tag, she'll have a trace on them.

I'm a bachelor living alone with family in town, it could be anywhere from 2 hours to 2 weeks.

In the evening. In the 7+ years since my first kid was born, I haven't missed a single evening at home, to wish them a good night. I even excuse myself from business trips.

I have thought about this because I don't plan to have kids, and I might end up living alone in my later years. So, how long would it take for someone to find me after I have died?

Right now is it not about caring more for what is unusual. If my friends or family knew something was wrong, they would report it right away. This actually happened once with a friend. When I was very sick and didn’t answer her calls. She tried every number she could find. Eventually, she only found my sister's phone number, who then contacted me to check if I was okay. My friend was extremely worried, she thought I was in the hospital or something.

Nice try, ICE.

I think people would notice early (work would definitely be the first to know), but would take a while to actually report something.

I think it's pretty universal; people don't want to make a fuss or be a bother.. like it would be embarrassing or something to report someone missing for not showing up to work, or missing a gym session. Not to mention the not-so-missing will probably feel quite upset about getting reported missing because they took an unprompted nap or lost their phone.

It's not strange for adults to not answer their phone, and in NPF-circles it's even less strange for someone to go into social hibernation with very little warning.

Unfortunately this will lead to (single household) adults being missing for longer before people get worried enough to actually tell someone, and then they'll try to get in touch with other friends or family before the actual police.

My Fiancee would notice very quickly. My family it would be weeks if not longer

About fifteen seconds, since that's how often my kids ask me for stuff.

A few hours after night if I'm not answering my phone and only 2 family members would notice, nobody else would notice I'm gone or if I never come back.

I need a deadman switch... maybe watch a log file for a program I use daily or something.

"If you're reading this, they got me."

I guess I'm nabbed when I'm watering the garden. Husband wakes up a few hours later. Goes to look for me. Can't find me. Freaks the fuck out, gets my twin up to look for me. Now they're both freaked out. Husband probably calls the cops. So a few hours at most.

My wife would be freaking out about two minutes after she realized I hadn't come back inside, I wasn't answering my phone, and I wasn't in any of the usual places around the house.

Everyone else? Weeks.

I work from home and always tell my husband when I’m going out. He works from the office 1-2 days a week and is home other days. So depending on the day it’d take minutes or around dinner time. Although he’d probably text my phone and wait for hours before contacting others.

Depends on the day. Between a few hours and a few days. If I've got something due at work later in the day, hours. If I have no hard deliverables for a few weeks then one of the bars where I'm a regular and play music would be the first to figure it out. All the bartenders and sound guys know how to get in touch with me.

Mom would figure it out in a month or so.

I drop off the earth pretty frequently but I always keep my gig and work commitments or call if I can't. So it depends on my next commitment, which happens pretty much weekly.

Unironically might be a month or two for me

Depending on when this happens, my fiancée could notice in as little as an hour, and she would be in a panic until I am returned to her.

My wife would notice in a few hours, and be panicked in less than 12. Work would notice in <12-16 hours weekdays, <60 hours weekend.

At most, a week. Family would notice otherwise.

I'm sorry that your relationship with yours isn't good.

Sadly, they would miss me at work before anything else

On a weekday would take 24-48 hours, work would probably start making calls if I just randomly stopped showing up. It would be odd enough if I didn't show up for one day without calling/emailing anyone, 2 days would become concerning.

Might take longer over a weekend, depends whether I have any family trying to text or call me.

I guess it depends on the time of day. If it was morning, probably 6 hours because my kids would now be home alone, and as soon as my wife gets home in the afternoon, there's no way she doesn't freak out. Maybe even less since my one kid has a phone that can only call my wife. We have so many things we do every day that if any of us went missing, it would be a huge red flag pretty quickly. Thinking about it now, it feels kind of sad. I like freedom, and right now, I guess I have very little of that, lol.

I message my wife when I get to work and when I'm leaving. So somewhere between an hour and 7 or 8 depending on exactly when in my day I get nabbed for her to notice.

My work colleagues would probably try to call me if I didn't turn up (I've fallen off my bike before so they might suspect that) but I don't think they would put out a police report immediately if I just didn't turn up one morning.

I have a job, a wife, and a kid, so I'd expect almost immediately. Especially if my phones go dark.

Around 24h on a weekday.

Up to 72h on a weekend.

Quite a lot of time if it's during my holidays or weekend, since I like to go MIA quite often and people are used to me not replying for some time. The first to know will be work, when I don't show up all day.

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