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When I was on Reddit I felt like my opinion didn’t matter. But here it just feels more open and free.

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[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 53 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Every comment I would make on Reddit seemed to get challenged by someone looking to start a long-winded argument as they were, in fact, the main character of the universe.

I like it here because so far, people are nice. It’s like the first day of high school and everyone just wants to be friends and meet people.

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No karma competition here. It has a bigger effect on behaviour than you'd think.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It’s like a little trophy or a symbol of validity to some people. You’d see big edits addressing downvoted as if people got personally hit in the head with them.

I don’t blame people though because viscerally, these things are little tokens of “approval” by others at large.

[–] Quill7513@slrpnk.net 10 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Reddit gamified participation, and the result was an addiction to trying to say things that people would click the updoot for. Here, the comment / post score is used purely to determine the relevance and value of the individual comments and posts. I think the result is clear: people feel less compelled to post the meme, the shitpost, the expected something and are more likely to express a thought they have, or think is valuable to the conversation.

The result is less stuff, but the stuff is more nuanced, interesting, and engaging (even if the engagement metrics are lower). It's also a less stressful environment to interact with, and is just kinda all around better since no one is trying to profit

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[–] jarfil@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Votes have a bandwagon effect, both up and down votes. Sometimes it just felt like arguing with an army of mute downvoting zombies; no reply, just downvotes. I completely understand some communities on Lemmy disabling downvotes, even if that means there is no mora a "controversial" vote.

My only fear is that as Lemmy gets bigger, the same botting, brigading and mindless bandwagoning, will also come here.

[–] Scooter411@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I feel like your characterization of Reddit users as long-winded and contrarian is inaccurate and frankly offensive. Let me write you several paragraphs about why you’re wrong, sprinkled with thinly veiled personal insults and outright harsh commentary about you as a person.

Sorry, just trying to make it feel like our old home :)

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 year ago (10 children)

Lmao this was good. You forgot to comb through my post history to see if you can make your comment even more hard-hitting by referencing a personal problem I have that was highlighted in a post or comment from 6 months ago 🤪

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[–] ModdedPhones@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 year ago

Deleted My reddit account , tried all of the fediverse before but always went back to propriety for same reason as anyone else. Everyone is there. With the Reddit exodus I feel this will get the push it needs

[–] minorsecond@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Yes. It’s far less hostile here and I don’t fear getting downvoted to hell for asking a question.

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[–] nameisnotimportant@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am because I feel it's great to be a part of the growing numbers of the platform. Everything is a bit rough around the edges and it gives it a 'far west' feel

[–] Ignacio@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

This instance is not big enough for the two of us.

[–] kthxbye_reddit@feddit.de 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I‘m way more active here. I want that place to survive and become the new home for former redditors.

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[–] unconsciousvoidling@lemmy.one 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Reddit comments just get washed away by millions of other users. Where as in this place it's not as competitive so yea I understand what you mean.

[–] SamC@lemmy.nz 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah, I think this is a big part of it. There's no point posting something in the big Reddit subs most of the time because someone else will have already posted the same thing.

To get noticed you have to be early and/or say something witty or superficially inciteful. There's no room for nuance.

It just becomes a competition for karma, and if you don't play you're screaming into the void.

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[–] yarr@lemmy.fmhy.ml 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Reddit comment threads are currently just full of groupmind wankery. I like being on a platform where I don't 100% agree with everyone and I don't have to hold "sanctioned" opinions that are approved by a mod team of 3.

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[–] PeterPoopshit@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm more active here. You can actually post comments without idiots being toxic about it for no reason. You can actually make posts without them getting removed for no reason. It's great.

[–] bloodfart@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I made two post on Reddit in like 2008 or something. One day I’ll have made ten posts here.

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[–] Raxiel@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Gonna have to buck the trend and say, no.

I had good experiences on Reddit, I was active in a few different communities and had good engagement without the 'avalanche of toxic responses' some people here are describing.

I'm leaving Reddit due to the changes at the top, not because of problems at the grass roots.

[–] jep@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

Same here. Of course there was always the occasional troll looking for a fight, but mostly acceptable to pleasant interactions.

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[–] solarzones@programming.dev 9 points 1 year ago

I am definitely more active on here than Reddit. I’ve had the same experience as you but I’m tired of gawking at those know it all cockbags. They’ll be here at some point but yeah, it’s a nice community here.

[–] YetAnotherYeti@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Definitely.

For example, I've just written and posted a comment in this very thread. That's more than I'd ever do in a thread like this on Reddit.

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[–] Seasons@lemmy.fmhy.ml 8 points 1 year ago

Been trying to go out of my way to be more active on here. Help the platform grow ya know?

I usually lurk for months at a time then comment once or twice a year on any forum.

[–] Boozilla@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yes. Got to the point on reddit where I almost never commented because of the ackshually types.

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[–] MXX53@programming.dev 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I find myself commenting much more here than I did on reddit. I think that is because I want this to be successful and I want to be able to he done with reddit.

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[–] Dr_Wu@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I want to comment more but I often don't have much to say. I've made it a goal to comment more though, because I want to see this platform succeed.

I love the enthusiasm in this thread but if we the mass migration of reddit users that I am hoping for, the toxicity and annoying reddit behaviors are probably coming along with them. I am hopeful that this place will at least stay much more open and free.

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[–] 1337admin@1337lemmy.com 8 points 1 year ago

I was a 10 year lurker on reddit. Now I have my own Lemmy instance

[–] we_swarm@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Current Lemmy feels a lot more like early reddit. At the same time I don't think it has hit its Eternal September moment. The site is still primarily the domain of early adopters and people who care about the community.

[–] pepsison52895@lemmy.one 7 points 1 year ago

I feel like I can contribute more since the communities are smaller, but I haven't had much of value to say. Haven't really found my niche yet like I had on Reddit.

[–] Thoxy@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I surprise myself that I'm more active on lemmy than on reddit.

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[–] Xeon@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm not as active as I was on Reddit, but to be honest, I like it. I went from spending 5/6 hours scrolling on Reddit, to 1 hour a day on Lemmy.

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[–] Valravn@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

I need some more time, I am pretty shy both irl and online and I kinda liked hiding behind tens of other users. But maybe I will grow to like this

[–] OdinsonThor@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 year ago

I'm definitely trying to be, which isn't difficult considering that my last comment there was a year ago, and I only made 5 comments that year.

I'd been on reddit for 11 years, and I was more active back then, but I sort of started to just lurk more as time went by, probably because there was an ocean of comments in every post

[–] llama@midwest.social 6 points 1 year ago

I check Lemmy multiple times per day now!

[–] lemmy@endlesstalk.org 6 points 1 year ago

When I joined Lemmy I decided I wanted to engange with the community here on Lemmy, since I on Reddit I just lurked, so I'm much more active here.

[–] borlax@lemmy.borlax.com 6 points 1 year ago

About the same, however engagement here seems to be easier and better all around. Have only run into 1 or 2 pedantic assholes as opposed to reddit being like 80% pedantic assholes.

[–] dispenser@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think so. I feel the camaraderie is much higher here as well, since we’re all refugees together in a sense, but also part of a great new thing.

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[–] Daisychan@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Yes! English is not my first language, so commenting on Reddit made me nervous. I find Lemmy to be more forgiving (if that makes sense?) as well.

[–] rm_dash_r_star@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago

I've been spending more time here. Could be the newness factor or maybe it's just more engaging. It's going to be a lot different only because of the smaller population. I think Reddit may have been too big for its own good.

[–] Aarlog@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

I wouldn't say I'm more active in terms of posting and commenting, though I wasn't too active on Reddit the last few years to begin with. Though the fact I haven't logged into my Reddit account of 10 years since checking out Lemmy speaks to how at-home I feel here, even after basically giving up one of the sites I used the most in the past decade or so.

[–] kalipike@lemmy.one 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh, absolutely! I did a lot of consuming on Reddit, and only participated in a couple specific communities.

Here, I feel far more inclined to actively participate.

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[–] Evolone@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

Still trying to “find my place” here but I am enjoying the whole thing. Lots of awesome discussions popping up and great conversation here.

[–] Xer0@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The issue with reddit is that it turns everyone into know it all assholes. The discussion is absolutely horrendous over there. Here it's so much better and more sensible.

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[–] martini1992@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

I am, absolutely, less intimidating. Remember there are literally dozens of us.

[–] jtk@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 1 year ago

I didn't even have an account on reddit for the last few years because I was getting too active and I could feel the karma cravings so I just deleted my account and lurked using old.reddit.com.

[–] Binzy_Boi@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

I used to use Reddit through throwaway accounts. Was never a regular user, and moved away from it over a year ago now. Just stopped posting to socials a lot.

Mental health has gotten better, and I've been more active here than I ever was on Reddit because I just enjoy the vibes the place gives me overall.

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