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[–] DrMango@lemmy.world 33 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Why is this cropped so poorly?

[–] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago

To avoid giving the original artist credit and also to avoid repost detection on Reddit.

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

I didn’t crop it. I just stole it from elsewhere

[–] victron@programming.dev 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

As a late 30s, shit like this stop being funny, because hits too close to home.

[–] Selmafudd@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah happened to me too in the late 30s. This is the real midlife crisis, trying to come to terms with existential nihilism, it's not buying a fucking red convertible..

[–] AmbientChaos@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I was dealing with some pretty intense nihilism after my beloved dog passed away. I had thoughts like "Why put effort into anything when in 100/1000/10000 years everything I love and care about will be dead, gone, and forgotten?" It's a terrible philosophy to have and live with, incredibly depressing. I was able to escape mine through meditation with some chemical assistance. Realized that just because things don't last forever doesn't mean they don't have meaning. The fact that we're alive and conscious, experiencing things everyday, means our lives have value. The cosmic odds of us existing here and now are staggering, we're so lucky to be alive! So, to me the value is in the experiences, in the day to day.

(early 30s, also bought sports car)

[–] Zink@programming.dev 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I have gone through the same thought process, and I like to think of it as positive nihilism. The fact that everything is temporary and nothing really matters means that meaning & importance are created in our minds. That can help to give yourself permission to spend your limited time on things that (for whatever reason) matter to YOU.

Edit: early 40s here. I got a fun fast car in my mid 20s. I plan to get another one in a few years, but my mid life crisis involved building a koi pond in my back yard and getting more family pets in general. It helps that I turned 40 in 2020 when there was a lot of time to spend around the house. It’s totally a “me” thing, and I love it every day.

[–] AmbientChaos@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I tried to lean into that as well, something like nothing matters so you can do whatever makes you happy! I couldn't quiet get it to work for myself, but I know several very happy people living by that philosophy.

The koi pond + pets solution definitely sounds like the right move! Having pets during the pandemic kept me sane.

If you don't mind me asking, what kind of fun car did you get and what are you thinking of getting? I'm a big car guy and love hearing about people's cars :D

[–] Zink@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Absolutely! When my sensible reliable used ‘99 Honda Accord sedan(with a 5 speed!) blew a freaking cylinder valve on a road trip, I got myself a 2006 WRX. Damned good car. It kept me safe when it got totaled by some asshat in a pickup truck, and got replaced with the family SUV. But we have a 2012 Mazda 3 too, and that’s what I drive on my back country road to work!

My next car, once I’m ready, I hope to essentially be the electric upgrade to the WRX. The best example right now is probably a Tesla model 3 performance. Basically, dual motor AWD with the instant low-end torque and super car 0-60 of ~3 seconds — if that can be part of my daily life for normal-car-ish cost (given that I am also into cars) it seems like a loss to not have that experience in my life.

There are already some great alternatives out there, but given the changing market right now, whichever car I get might not even exist yet.

[–] AmbientChaos@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Nice! I had a 1995 Accord coupe, a 2005 Accord coupe, and a 2015 Accord coupe. Loved those cars, amazing daily drivers that had a splash of fun and style. It's truly a tragedy they discontinued it.

WRXs are rad, excellent choices! A friend of mine rented a Model 3 Performance and took me for a ride in it. The acceleration is absurd!

[–] AccountMaker@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 year ago

Why put effort into anything when in 100/1000/10000 years everything I love and care about will be dead, gone, and forgotten?

I had a slightly different question: what's the point of doing anything if it'll end? In other words: anything achievable is not worth doing.

I haven't really found an answer to this, it just stopped bothering me, though one potential answer was: happiness and wisdom. Wisdom is unachievable because there's always more to understand, and happiness is not a stable state since we're hardwired not to be perpetually happy because we wouldn't do anything if we were. Thus those two things can be chased always, they don't end, and then you die. After that you have no more problems.

(Mid 20s, don't like driving)

[–] victron@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago

Ha, as if I had the money to lol

[–] Voli@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

Do you too have a letter from the municipal that you need to open but keep stalling because you somehow know yet don’t know what’s in it ?

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I too am a late 30s and I find this funny because of how close it hits to home

[–] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 17 points 1 year ago
[–] GFGJewbacca@lemm.ee 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The hot take I've heard is that our ancient ancestors had a much higher chance of being killed by predators, so being on edge was an evolutionary advantage. According to this idea, the fear and dread of today is a remnant of our past.

[–] Lennvor@kbin.social 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Nah, I think that overstates the extent to which our ancestors were the hunter more than the hunted and ignores the social dimension. An early human might have been at risk for predators when they were out alone hunting or gathering but when you're with the group I'd think that's a much smaller threat. Having to deal with social threats from within the group, now, that's ever-present. And still present today!

Also, after reading a book about the evolution of agency that suggests the evolutionary innovation of humans is that we're a goal-seeking system that's able to function as a part of a larger goal-seeking system (collective action)... I wonder how much that can account for existential dread. We have a diffuse drive to be part of something greater than ourselves but it's not always clear what that should be.

[–] yA3xAKQMbq@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I wouldn’t read too much into that, evolutionary psychology is a pseudoscience: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criticism_of_evolutionary_psychology

Psychology is already a field full of rough concepts, bad statistics, and low certainties, we mostly have no clue why we’re doing things right now. Adding millions of years and unprovable speculation surely doesn’t help.

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[–] MaxMouseOCX@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Climate change is going to kill us all reasonably slowly, but it's OK because we're in the brink of nuclear war which will kill us quickly... Unfortunately, where I live isn't a historic nuclear target, but areas around me are, so I'll not be vaporised, and have to endure the chaos...

But... It's pizza day tomorrow so there's that.

[–] aubertlone@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn dude...

It's pizza day for me today! About to go pick it up right now actually. Stay strong 💪 thru the wait!!

[–] MaxMouseOCX@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fuckin sweet... What you having?

[–] aubertlone@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Cheese pizza, pan crust, jalapenos, extra cheese, well done.

Was delicious and they actually baked it extra for once, even tho I ask for it ever time.

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If there actually is nuclear war the fallout will affect the whole world. Even if you aren't near the blast you'll get a nice dose of radiation on the wind.

[–] MaxMouseOCX@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Yea, problem is I can shield in place whilst the worst passes and still be alive.....

[–] MasterNerd@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I live an hour from an a facility used in the Manhattan project. Wish me luck

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[–] syl@programming.dev 7 points 1 year ago

Fck. This is me. Jesus. Keep busy!

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[–] Squire1039@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago

It's a strategy. At least would be labeled as "functional" and not some other things...

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[–] Haui@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You never talk about the fight club.

[–] aksdb@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

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[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Why is everyone so anxious nowadays?

What's there to dread?

[–] Hildegarde@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People are worried about getting the tops of their heads cropped off. Its become an epidemic.

[–] Mongostein@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago

Happened to a friend of a friend of mine. He never recovered.

[–] ______@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I have anxiety. It's funny because I don't feel anything until it happens.its like my brain remembers "hey you should feel bad" and it happens, otherwise I'm cool as a cucumber

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[–] irmoz@reddthat.com 5 points 1 year ago

Must be nice to be so comfy

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (10 children)

I, for one, almost died at a mass shooting.

My body has left in a permanent state of pain and suffering, where every few days the pain intensifies and there is next to nothing I can do about it.

What about you?

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[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Avoidance of dread breeds more dread.

[–] ForbiddenRoot@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Why is everyone so anxious nowadays?

For me it's financial, though as a middle-aged person I am nowadays also plagued with metaphysical questions.

About the financial part, I'm actually very well-off but the world has become such a complex place (or it always was and I am only realizing it now at my age) and I have little to no control over most aspects of it. I don't want to lose what I have worked towards because of geo-politics, climate change impact, global recession, or such things. It's not an existential crisis for me but there is some amount of anxiety and dread that I previously did not have.

[–] Selmafudd@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Are people more anxious or is it just more acceptable to talk about it??

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[–] unreachable@lemmy.my.id 3 points 1 year ago

the reason to live

[–] MasterBlaster@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Too late... Le sigh.

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