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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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[Update] Will properly come out to my wife of 6 years in the next week or so. Any advice is appreciated ✨️ (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by Kayday@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Link to my first post. When we were sharing our new year's resolutions with each other earlier this month, I told her I want to he more true to myself, and more honest with her. I told her she deserves that, and that I love her.

We have talked about having "a conversation" soon. For us, we understand this to mean at least 2-3 hours where we sit down intending to talk without being interrupted. Time has continued to get away from us as we are settling into being parents as well with a 2 month old.

We have each made mentions of, "the conversation", and how we haven't forgotten, just haven't had the right moment yet.

Girls, I am just so proud of myself for taking this step. Even though nothing has really happened yet, it feels like more has happened in the last month than in my entire life.

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 months ago

I've just banned a few accounts that were spouting transphobia in this thread.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 months ago

All I can say is "fuck yeah" :)

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

If your experience is anything like mine, be prepared to have it twice 😂

It was a hard thing to bring up, and hard to hear so she ended up forgetting a lot of it the first time around. I'd say depending on heads pace, be prepared to go slow and maybe take breaks in the conversation to let some ideas "settle". You get these ideas and expectations about how life is going to go and something like this will put a kink into all of it and you kind of have to realign what you thought was going to happen with where you're heading now.

Edit: Also don't forget that first few months after a baby can be a rough time emotionally, so that is definitely going to affect everyone's feelings about it at some point.