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Most people just want a good life. If we stopped seeing each other as the enemies the world could be better.

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[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 6 points 1 hour ago

I only see people as an enemy if they've declared themselves as such. I'm not gonna make the first move, life is too short to make enemies with everyone I meet. That said, if you've got a swastika tattooed on your forehead then I'm gonna take that as a declaration that you're my enemy.

[–] rikudou@lemmings.world 0 points 47 minutes ago (1 children)

No. Some people want to control other people because of their various sky daddies or a simple greed. And those are the ones fucking up your life. Everyone else could more or less get along, but fanatics, billionaires and other people hungry for control of others are actively make sure we don't.

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 2 points 16 minutes ago

fanatics

Half of Lemmy users included in that group

[–] thezeesystem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Idk one side wants to enslave, murder, and rape. The other does not.

Let's just be friends as they take away my rights and everyone I love rights away, we shouldn't be enemies as they hunt down and murder someone for "existing"

Maybe we shouldn't be friends with the enemy and fight against the regime?

This is one of the was Nazis came into power, by manipulating the mass thinking "oh we should all be friends" and now look what happened.

-a trans non-binary disabled person

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 2 points 12 minutes ago

Idk one side wants to enslave, murder, and rape. The other does not.

Seeing people hold this kind of views is fucking depressing.

[–] andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 hours ago

Idk one side wants to enslave, murder, and rape. The other does not.

Advocating for OP, that's the learnt way they see how they can become comfortable.

[–] z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I have been struggling with this lately. I am staunchly anti violence and anti war, and yet, I am conflicted on how far I truly would be willing to go to cull classism, fascism, racism, transphobia , homophobia, misogyny, and pedophilia from the world.

These things are abhorrent to me, and I wonder how much of my humanity I'd be willing to sacrifice in exchange for even one of these to no longer being in existence amongst the ranks of humanity.

How much good does pacifism give to the world in promoting the better angels of our nature? How much harm does it do when those same principles allow the worst among us to march down our roads and drag away our loved ones in the night?

Two scenes from media I consume have lately continually resurfaced in my mind. One is this scene from Vinland Saga, where the main character's father confronts him when he finds his sword. The father is about to go off to war, and somberly asks his son who he wants to kill with his father's sword. This culminates with the father, who again, is about to go off to war, emphatically declaring to his son that he has no enemies, that there is no such thing as enemies.

The other is this scene from Star Wars Andor, in which a high level spy of a burgeoning Rebellion is asked by a compatriot (who wishes to quit fighting the Empire due to possibly being found out), asks what he sacrifices for the fight against the Empire. The monologue he delivers is chilling, acknowledging he sacrifices all things that make him human, he becomes like his enemy in order to defeat them. When he reflects on the question, and asks, "So what do I sacrifice? Everything!"

That...is what I believe I will have to give up in order for there to be a sunrise for the people I love tomorrow. I'll have to give up my humanity, everything. And I am afraid. I am selfish. I don't want to. But I don't know any other way.

The feelings that scene stir up in me resonate because that is how I feel when I think on the fascist cancer that has once again metastasized in America. Having no enemies... if only. Truly. Having enemies robs me of my humanity, because in fighting them I must bury my humanity. And I know that once I do that, there's no going back. There will be no redemption.

The thing I am struggling with is... am I the one who makes them my enemies? Or are they? And if the only thing we can agree on is that we are enemies...then what choice do we have when they come for me and those I claim as my kin?

[–] Jonnyprophet@lemmy.world 20 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Amen.

What the people who want to control us don't want us to realize is that you have a lot more in common with the Chinese/Russian/Ukrainian/Mexican/Indian working class... Factory worker/programmer/hard-working house wife... Then you do with your own political leaders and billionaires. People with servants who don't ever worry about bills. (Biden, Trump, Harris, Vance, Elon, Gates, Bezos, etc)... Don't look at the foreigners as different and the enemy... Look at the Rich and the Politicians (who want us to blame the foreigners)

[–] SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 2 hours ago

No war but class war.

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago

Yup we're all idiots

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 7 points 5 hours ago

If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?

[–] 9point6@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Paradox of tolerance

[–] Zacpod@lemmy.world 6 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

I'm not sure that's true. One side has empathy. The other does not. I don't want to be friends with someone who doesn't have empathy.

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 7 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (2 children)

The world is not binary like that. Your side is not all good and the other side is not all bad.

[–] Zacpod@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I didn't say they were "all bad." I said they lacked empathy and I wasn't interested in being friends with them.

Conservative and progressive brains are different.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/conservative-and-liberal-brains-might-have-some-real-differences/

And one of those differences is empathy. https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/18/1/nsad029/7175525

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 0 points 1 hour ago

One side has empathy. The other does not.

You generalized as if everyone on the left has empathy and no one on the right does. That’s simply not true. Group differences like this are often larger within the group than between them. While it might be true that, on average, people on the right are less empathetic than those on the left, it’s neither fair nor accurate to imply that one side has empathy and the other doesn’t.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

One would need empathy to see it that way ;)

Empathy is something that can be learned like any ability, it isn't always a binary you have it or you don't.

[–] WeUnite@lemm.ee 7 points 5 hours ago

I kind of see your point there. My hope though is that maybe people could gain more empathy for each other by understanding that we are all human and I hope that one day people can understand each other's struggles.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 6 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Actually, I'm special. The right told me my parents told me so.

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I'm more special. I look down on you derisively.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Exactly what someone who's just like everyone else would say tbh

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

I'm so much more like everybody else than you.

[–] Nougat@fedia.io 3 points 4 hours ago

Some are fascists. Some are not. That's a pretty big distinction.

I think of people who vote for bad politicans as useful idiots.

The average voter actually believe trump will make things better. There are people to somehow still believe trump isnt a racist. I don't know whats going on with their brains.

Like, of course there are those who are bigots and want more bigotry in government, but there are also many who are not exactly hateful racists or misogynists, they simply aren't that smart and easily get swayed by social media posts.

Think of them as victims of a scam (well, except that this is a on a much bigger scale and have more serious consequences 🙁)

I mean I don't expect people to forgive them for what they voted for, I mean I personally would have a hard time being around those types of people, but like, would you tell your grandparents: "It's your fault you got scammed"

I feel like a hypocrite for saying this, because on an emotional level, I hate hate everyone who voted for the fascist. But then when I think about the situation with my rational part of my brain, I realize people are just idiots and fall victim to the fascist scam. Its not necessary the person, but its that this is what our species is. A biological machine that although capable of rational thought, can still be easily manipulated.

Yelling at a person and telling them that they are stupid isnt gonna get them out of the scam, but talking to them might.

We aren't in a civil war yet, there might still time for dialogue.

[–] Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago
[–] DarkMetatron@feddit.org 0 points 3 hours ago

Yes, it gets problematic as soon as extreme positions and mentalities enter the equation. All extrem positions are toxic, extreme left, extreme right, extreme religious (any religion), extreme fans of a sports club, extreme anything doesn't matter.

If we could find some kind of balance, some true middle ground without huge extremes, then the world would be a much nicer place.

[–] muntedcrocodile@lemm.ee -3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

And someone says they are a trump supporter and suddenly its all just calling everyone a fascist time.

[–] pivot_root@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

You know what, you're totally right. There's plenty of other accurate single-word descriptions that could be used to add some more variety:

Shortsighted, dogmatist, sociopath, mysognist, bootlicker, Neanderthal, degenerate, cultist, egotistical, simpleton, supremacist, etc.