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Most people just want a good life. If we stopped seeing each other as the enemies the world could be better.

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[–] Jonnyprophet@lemmy.world 45 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Amen.

What the people who want to control us don't want us to realize is that you have a lot more in common with the Chinese/Russian/Ukrainian/Mexican/Indian working class... Factory worker/programmer/hard-working house wife... Then you do with your own political leaders and billionaires. People with servants who don't ever worry about bills. (Biden, Trump, Harris, Vance, Elon, Gates, Bezos, etc)... Don't look at the foreigners as different and the enemy... Look at the Rich and the Politicians (who want us to blame the foreigners)

[–] SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org 18 points 1 month ago

No war but class war.

[–] thezeesystem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 43 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Idk one side wants to enslave, murder, and rape. The other does not.

Let's just be friends as they take away my rights and everyone I love rights away, we shouldn't be enemies as they hunt down and murder someone for "existing"

Maybe we shouldn't be friends with the enemy and fight against the regime?

This is one of the was Nazis came into power, by manipulating the mass thinking "oh we should all be friends" and now look what happened.

-a trans non-binary disabled person

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

There aren't only two sides to every issue. Thinking like that is limiting.

[–] leftzero@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Regardless of how many sides there are, it is an undeniable fact that plenty of people (in the USA in particular, apparently, a majority of the voters) choose to be in (a) side(s) that want(s) to enslave, murder, and rape.

And many others choose to be in (a) side(s) that enable(s) the previous one(s).

No civilised society should accept any of those sides, or those that choose them.

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 5 points 1 month ago

It seems that way because of the two party system brought upon by how votes are counted and winners chosen (winner takes all). If you watch jubilee, you'll see just how fragmented both parties are (good example of pro and anti trump republicans). Forcing people to choose between one or the other has led to the USA becoming very black and white.

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 6 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Idk one side wants to enslave, murder, and rape. The other does not.

Seeing people hold this kind of views is fucking depressing.

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[–] yetiftw@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

solidarity means solidarity. other working class people are not your enemy (re: 1984). the all or nothing mindset accomplishes nothing besides closing your mind off to the plights and perspectives of others.

-also trans and disabled

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[–] demesisx@infosec.pub 26 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

It’s by design. ~~Divide and conquer~~ Combine and conquer has been the playbook since they (anti-labor think tanks like the Progressive Policy Institute and others that seek to keep labor infighting) started studying group psychology.

FPTP contributes more than its share to the tribalism and poor infighting we see in the US and the UK.

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[–] atro_city@fedia.io 22 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The major difference is money. We should be banding together against the rich, but instead we distract ourselves with what we look like, what we sound like, where we come from, what team (sports, town, city, state, country, ...) we support, which sex we have, and a bunch of other things that divide us.

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[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 20 points 1 month ago

I only see people as an enemy if they've declared themselves as such. I'm not gonna make the first move, life is too short to make enemies with everyone I meet. That said, if you've got a swastika tattooed on your forehead then I'm gonna take that as a declaration that you're my enemy.

[–] radicalautonomy@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I don't see MAGA people as the enemy because they want to pay less in taxes. I see them as the enemy because they don't think my kids should exist in society and are actively passing legislation to make it so.

Delete this shit take.

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It may be more directed at them than you.

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[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 month ago

Username checks out

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 month ago

If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?

[–] z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

I have been struggling with this lately. I am staunchly anti violence and anti war, and yet, I am conflicted on how far I truly would be willing to go to cull classism, fascism, racism, transphobia , homophobia, misogyny, and pedophilia from the world.

These things are abhorrent to me, and I wonder how much of my humanity I'd be willing to sacrifice in exchange for even one of these to no longer being in existence amongst the ranks of humanity.

How much good does pacifism give to the world in promoting the better angels of our nature? How much harm does it do when those same principles allow the worst among us to march down our roads and drag away our loved ones in the night?

Two scenes from media I consume have lately continually resurfaced in my mind. One is this scene from Vinland Saga, where the main character's father confronts him when he finds his sword. The father is about to go off to war, and somberly asks his son who he wants to kill with his father's sword. This culminates with the father, who again, is about to go off to war, emphatically declaring to his son that he has no enemies, that there is no such thing as enemies.

The other is this scene from Star Wars Andor, in which a high level spy of a burgeoning Rebellion is asked by a compatriot (who wishes to quit fighting the Empire due to possibly being found out), asks what he sacrifices for the fight against the Empire. The monologue he delivers is chilling, acknowledging he sacrifices all things that make him human, he becomes like his enemy in order to defeat them. When he reflects on the question, and asks, "So what do I sacrifice? Everything!"

That...is what I believe I will have to give up in order for there to be a sunrise for the people I love tomorrow. I'll have to give up my humanity, everything. And I am afraid. I am selfish. I don't want to. But I don't know any other way.

The feelings that scene stir up in me resonate because that is how I feel when I think on the fascist cancer that has once again metastasized in America. Having no enemies... if only. Truly. Having enemies robs me of my humanity, because in fighting them I must bury my humanity. And I know that once I do that, there's no going back. There will be no redemption.

The thing I am struggling with is... am I the one who makes them my enemies? Or are they? And if the only thing we can agree on is that we are enemies...then what choice do we have when they come for me and those I claim as my kin?

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Like South Park on religion: "you're all so focused on the stupid little differences that you're not seeing the big, stupid similarities."

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Actually, I'm special. The right told me my parents told me so.

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm more special. I look down on you derisively.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Exactly what someone who's just like everyone else would say tbh

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm so much more like everybody else than you.

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[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Yup we're all idiots

[–] Nougat@fedia.io 6 points 1 month ago

Some are fascists. Some are not. That's a pretty big distinction.

[–] Zacpod@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I'm not sure that's true. One side has empathy. The other does not. I don't want to be friends with someone who doesn't have empathy.

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

The world is not binary like that. Your side is not all good and the other side is not all bad.

[–] Zacpod@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (7 children)

I didn't say they were "all bad." I said they lacked empathy and I wasn't interested in being friends with them.

Conservative and progressive brains are different.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/conservative-and-liberal-brains-might-have-some-real-differences/

And one of those differences is empathy. https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/18/1/nsad029/7175525

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

One side has empathy. The other does not.

You generalized as if everyone on the left has empathy and no one on the right does. That’s simply not true. Group differences like this are often larger within the group than between them. While it might be true that, on average, people on the right are less empathetic than those on the left, it’s neither fair nor accurate to imply that one side has empathy and the other doesn’t.

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[–] WeUnite@lemm.ee 8 points 1 month ago

I kind of see your point there. My hope though is that maybe people could gain more empathy for each other by understanding that we are all human and I hope that one day people can understand each other's struggles.

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[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 month ago

This is something we all need to remember

Have empathy and realize that people can have there own views. They aren't dumb because they disagree with you

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

nah.

I can't have empathy for fuckheads that want to kill and imprison people based on their sexual preferences or their identity.

I refuse to subject myself to the torture of "working together" with people with fascist ideologies.

I cannot, and will not, coexist with Nazis.

[–] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I think op meant more along the lines of normal, everyday people, not radical extremists who hate everyone that isn't like them.

and by normal, I mean non hate driven people. I believe everyone is weird in some way, there is no "normal".

the way I described it to my son is everyone has the same right to be happy as he does, you don't get to dictate that to anyone. we love you for your weirdness and expect the same for anyone else.

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[–] leftzero@lemmynsfw.com 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Most people seem to want others not to have a good life, ignoring or disregarding the effects that might have on themselves.

Many if not most would sacrifice their own wellbeing if that guarantees that "the right people" will also suffer. They see the world as a zero sum game, and can't conceive the possibility of having a good life if others aren't having a bad one.

Most people suck, often to the point of being monstrous by any decent definition.

[–] TheSambassador@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago (6 children)

most

Source?

I'm pushing back on this viewpoint wherever I'm seeing it. Humans are certainly flawed in a lot of ways, especially in how easy it can be to mislead us, but this cynical worldview that most people are actively wanting others to hurt is not based in reality. Honestly it sounds like me when I was in the depths of depression.

I think we have a major problem with how we share and consume news. Stories are shared as screen-capped headlines that emphasize the Bad thing that happened, and even if you find the original article, it's stuffed with ads that make you not want to bother. Random one-off bad/stupid things that one person did somewhere far away are reported as world news without statistics and context.

The result? Increasing cynicism. The good, uplifting stories rarely come through. People begin to base their worldview and how they interact with other people on this "fact" that most people suck. This culminates in them becoming the thing that they think everyone is - they go through life scared of or angry at other people by default.

It isn't an inevitability. Maybe I'm wrong, but believing in people is a much better existence, even when they occasionally let me down.

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[–] babybus@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

Yeah, but also people have very different ideas of what good life is, and what stops them from having it.

[–] 9point6@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Paradox of tolerance

I think of people who vote for bad politicans as useful idiots.

The average voter actually believe trump will make things better. There are people to somehow still believe trump isnt a racist. I don't know whats going on with their brains.

Like, of course there are those who are bigots and want more bigotry in government, but there are also many who are not exactly hateful racists or misogynists, they simply aren't that smart and easily get swayed by social media posts.

Think of them as victims of a scam (well, except that this is a on a much bigger scale and have more serious consequences 🙁)

I mean I don't expect people to forgive them for what they voted for, I mean I personally would have a hard time being around those types of people, but like, would you tell your grandparents: "It's your fault you got scammed"

I feel like a hypocrite for saying this, because on an emotional level, I hate hate everyone who voted for the fascist. But then when I think about the situation with my rational part of my brain, I realize people are just idiots and fall victim to the fascist scam. Its not necessary the person, but its that this is what our species is. A biological machine that although capable of rational thought, can still be easily manipulated.

Yelling at a person and telling them that they are stupid isnt gonna get them out of the scam, but talking to them might.

We aren't in a civil war yet, there might still time for dialogue.

[–] Etterra@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

True. For example we are all made of ~~delicious~~ nutritious meats.

[–] rikudou@lemmings.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

No. Some people want to control other people because of their various sky daddies or a simple greed. And those are the ones fucking up your life. Everyone else could more or less get along, but fanatics, billionaires and other people hungry for control of others are actively make sure we don't.

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 8 points 1 month ago

fanatics

Half of Lemmy users included in that group

[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago

Bro discovered Christianity

[–] JustZ@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Every molecule that makes up our entire existence came from the fusion of a hot star, and no matter what it looks like right now, it will once again be both the precursor and the product of many more stars.

In that regard we are all identical and inconsequential.

[–] SynopsisTantilize@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

I think if you peel back the ego, the "self" is just obligations that we've made to try to create an "identity" like "I have to draw I'm an artist". "Oh, I have to go to school because I'm a smart person and I don't want to XYZ."

It's all just fluff, or an illusion. If we were to truly be free of all obligations we would find out quickly that we are all the same consciousness wearing different masks. I am me, and I am you, and you are me. If you were to be able to switch perspectives with someone else I'd be surprised if it felt any different than being in your own body.

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