nyternic

Yeah I'm only one person here, whatever, big deal.

Anywho, it's annoying to me that I'm inches away from leaving Lemmy because it's instability right now is getting bothersome to use it. People have told me that there are other instances but the dealbreaker for me is to use yet more logins to use them, some of which may take time to get into because some lemmy servers have a review team that has to look over some things before allowing you in.

Then, from that, it's wonderful to run into and be confronted by shitty people who behave too similarly to the assholes I'd run across on Reddit. With their dishonest takes, participating in bad faith, their brigading and all that. We're supposed to be, mostly, done with this Reddit shit but I feel like overtime, it'll just all be contaminated with Reddit shit that we don't need more of.

I've only been on here for over a week and my hopes are considerably low. My only options right now is to simply once again go back to Reddit and just tolerate the shit there while wishing death on the nobodies that spend their waking hour on just shitposting on others for their own cynical amusement because their mothers forgot to swallow.

And the other is to just simply water down my usage of the other social media platforms that I am on because this whole social media thing is getting stupidly silly and ridiculous as it is.

If all that you deal with are assholes then YOU must be the asshole!

If everything and everyone is 'abusive behavior' wherever you go then it's because YOU are the abusive one!

Like what kind of logic is this? It is both blanket generalizing and accountability dodging in one, whenever this kind of thing is projected. It's to guilt the individual who may be propping legitimate complaints or issues about the people or things they deal with every day, into believing that they're the problem - with some exceptions.

I do deal with my fair share of assholes, even when I was trying to be the more civil one and kind to the best of my ability. How, in a reasonable sense, does that constitute me as an asshole when the reception I get is that they're being the asshole in return? What was I expected to do? Drop to my knees, worship their very step and kiss their ass to appease them?

The problem lies is when people dodge accountability for their behavior and their actions that result in conflict. So they turn this into some ridiculous ping pong game of deciding who the real asshole is or who the real abuser is. Nothing but high-school level debates that consists of 'he said, she said' that could go on forever and no amount of conclusion is found.

So the answer is to just generalize someone and run with it? That makes someone even MORE irresponsible for their accountability, to me. Nobody knows the stories of everyone involved in whatever the hell happens and I've learned that nobody will ever take the time to sit and understand a situation.

But I think just generalizing is a stupid way of handling it. If you don't care at all, come to your own conclusions and act upon them even if it means disassociating with someone based on how they've treated you, your friends and even strangers. Don't let social media decide for you about who is an asshole and who is an abuser or who is what.

For example, people on Reddit asking redundant questions and give equally redundant or unhelpful answers.

Whenever every 'What's the worst show you've seen?' is asked, you'll get 10,000 "Kardashians" answers, which is just easy karma farming.

If someone posts in a community that's geared for something like opinions, but someone elects to just go on a full scale rant instead.

Millions of us, everyday of every hour, are working a multitude of hours at different periods in the day. All so that we, can prop and propel the few lives that are on top. The few who's lives we're both knowingly and unknowingly sustaining. Who's lives that have children that we're indirectly supporting through our labor. Who's dreams get to be realized because of our time spent doing these kinds of jobs.

What we're left with, is that we're left to having to set aside our dreams or let them die off. We have to tell our children "sorry, honey, but I can't help you get to your prom." or "I can't afford to buy your supplies" or "I can't make it for your game". All at the expense of slaving away for extra hours on top of the scheduled hours to work.

This kind of ecosystem is unbearably uncomfortable to realize and practice against our wills.

That's what I'd like to see reformed.

The toxicity became too much to bear. I couldn't go a post or a comment anymore without someone wanting to give me a hard time for it. Downvote brigading, using antagonizing logic to try and bait for responses that they want. The users digging into your post history to bring up things that have nothing to do with, with what you bothered replying to them in the first place.

I don't know who to blame, what to blame and when it happened. But, Reddit has long lost it's status as being an open forum to peacefully and civilly talk anything in without someone getting way too entangled with their own self-importance and how their opinions have to be seen as some form of law to be obeyed by.

God I hate this! Never fails, either. I'd be on a page of someone's profile or some piece of content I'd like to see but I'm required to log in. Okay, I will do so. So I do and it doesn't redirect me back! It just puts me in the front page, like no thanks, just bring me to where I was!