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How do people have hobbies and interests? I genuinely have no idea. (hexbear.net)

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Like…I have some things I have vague interest in, I guess.
But not anything I have ever put time into, or am good at, or am knowledgeable enough to hold a conversation.

Maybe I’m just depressed…maybe I’ve always been depressed…or maybe I’m just missing some kind of spark most other humans have.

Like how does someone just know or decide like…”yeah I’m really into architecture.”?
I don’t know if I’ve ever felt like that…I feel like I’ve tried and it’s never lasted.

I feel like I’ve spent half my life just addicted to social media and video games and that’s no longer working.

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 7 points 1 day ago

What constitutes a hobby?

I was encouraged from a young age to read books. I still do. I enjoy it. Are books a hobby?

My parents are both music fans. Had a big music collection, went to a lot of concerts. I'm the same. I enjoy it.

It's a short leap from books (eg: lotr) and some music (eg: some metal, some prog rock) to DND and similar games. It looked cool so I got into it.

Bikes are pretty ecologically friendly and the exercise is good. I've only dipped my toes into biking but it wouldn't be a big leap to buy my own bike, find s meetup, or whatever.

A friend of mine learned about weaving... somewhere. I don't know where actually. But they said "that looks cool' and looked into it. Now they weave and knit and such. Read about it online, watched some videos, signed up for a class.

A guy I know saw some photos online and went "that's cool. I could do that" and I think took a beginner class in it. Bought an entry level camera and just has fun taking pictures of stuff.

The common thread here is it's all stuff people enjoy.

Maybe delete more of your social media. That stuff is bad for you. A friend of mine started tracking how much time they spent on it, and realized it was like 4 hours a day doing nothing on Instagram. It's mostly trash. You don't need it.

Some guys at work are getting into chess. Not sure where it started but now they're playing and reading about strategy and stuff.

Don't beat yourself up over being bad at things.