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Um. So. I've been wearing a lot of tight sweaters recently and starting to show a bit too much nipple, so I bought some bras. Why just now? I guess I felt I didn't really "deserve" one, or I'd be "dressing up", or something, and wanted to wait for a good reason. Or two :3

Anyway, it's super comfortable, the padding really helps with sensitivity, and I looove what it does for my silhouette. BUT. I've been dressing somewhat androgynous up till now to give my hair / face time to catch up, and to me at least this is a big step into "this person is obviously dressing fem (wearing a bra)" territory. Which is kind of scary.

I'm not really sure what I'm asking here, sorry. I like presenting fem; I want to be perceived as fem; but I guess I'm kind of scared I look like a man in drag? Is anybody actually going to notice?

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Thanks for the reassurance! Yeah, voice is an interesting one. I'm using my new voice all the time now (similarly, I just can't stand to go back), although it's still a bit hit-and-miss, and wanders around a lot from day to day as I try out different things. Reactions have ranged from warmer tones and smiles from strangers, to "your voice is different" from people I meet occasionally, and "what do you mean, voice training? Your voice is the same as always" from people I work with. Sadly (?) there isn't a sir/ma'am distinction here like there is in English, so it's difficult to know how people perceive me.

Anyway, I went to an on-site event (including people I'm not explicitly out to) the other day in at least fem-adjacent wear with not-very-subtle bra bumps, and didn't get any awkward questions or comments. So I'm going to assume it's all in my head and keep pushing my comfort boundaries.