Transfem

There is a point where you can't really boy-mode anymore, and I admit that can feel really scary. You could try binding if you really have to keep boy-moding, but I'm not sure this is as mentally healthy as leaning into more feminine presentation (which is more affirming anyway). I guess it depends on whether you have socially transitioned or if you are closeted still.

If you can feminize, here are some ways I've approached feminizing to survive those awkward, early days of HRT:

• voice training (e.g. 1, 2),
• establishing a daily skin-care routine including wearing sunscreen every day and UV protection (1),
• getting eyebrows waxed professionally,
• seeing a skilled hairdresser and learning to take care of your hair and style it to look nice every day,
• learning how to feminize your face with makeup without looking like you're wearing makeup (e.g. 1, 2),
• gaining and losing weight to redistribute fat in feminine patterns,
• feminizing your body with certain exercises (e.g. 1, 2),
• learning how to shop and dress to accentuate and hide all the right parts of your body (e.g. 1, 2).

Guides / writeups like this can be helpful: https://web.archive.org/web/20230520181719/https://old.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/13n21h7/my_tips_on_how_to_pass/

There are so many resources it can be a bit of information overload, but as always feel free to ask me anything. ☺️

EDIT: also, congrats - welcome to being a woman! 🤗 ❤️

If you're trying to hide it, be careful with fabrics you wear, some will show straps and other things. Though if you want to hide it, you might be better off with a sports bra. But really, layers are your friend. Maybe consider an undershirt or wear a jacket/hoodie. But also keep in mind that if you notice a change in silhouette, others may as well. But anyway, congrats on the milestone.

I mean it depends on who you are worried will notice.

I have B cups and I've not seen any weird looks from strangers yet ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I will say that voice training definitely pays off, especially if you dress androgynous. About a month into using a fem voice full time, I tried to boymode while traveling, but totally failed. Even though I wasn't on e, hadn't shaved, and wore baggy casual clothes, I was seen as a woman.

A big part is that I couldn't get myself to use a masc voice. It had become automatic. I would start sentences in a fem voice and then struggle to make it masc as I talked. It also didn't help that I felt terrible while trying to do the masc voice. My hair and voice just made me seem like a tomboy.

We are bad judges of how we are perceived, as we have preconceptions that override reality. The people who knew you before are actually less likely to update the gender they see you as without being told to. Strangers will see you as a woman, while your neighbor might not have a clue if they never see you in a dress. I'd recommend finding situations where no one knows you, but you'd be relatively safe. You might eventually learn that you cannot pass as male anymore.

I'm not saying not to use bras, but if nips are the concern, another option is pasties which just go over the nipples. I think that's what they're called. You also might find them more comfortable if you don't need the support a bra provides. Or you might just find them weird. Worth a look, anyway.