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How can I become independent in life? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 week ago by search492@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Hello there, I'm a 21 year old guy from Germany and have very strong depression because of the constant abusive, toxic and manipulative behavior that I received from my parents since I was a kid.

Those strong depression are also the reason why I struggle a lot in life to get anything done by myself and become independent.

I already lived on my own when I was 17 but I failed because of my depression that made me incapable of taking care of myself which is why I moved back to my parents a year ago who only make it way worse for me because they won't stop hurting me and treating me like a awful person.

I feel so stuck in life and I tried everything from therapy, mental hospital and medications but nothing worked. The burden is just too strong causing me to feel worthless and incapable of living, I have lots of shame, guilt and major anxiety.

It's like being paralyzed by the fear of life.

My biggest dream always was to get rid of my parents and live independently on my own but I'm just incapable. I wanna get rid of this victim state so bad but I can't find a way to escape/deal with the hurt.

Is there anything I can do?

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[–] Franconian_Nomad@feddit.org 5 points 1 week ago

Du sprichst exzellentes Englisch und bist hier auf Lemmy. Das zeigt bereits, dass fähiger bist als du denkst.

Und du bist noch ein Baby. Weißt du wie lange ich gefailed habe, bis ich mein Leben auch nur ansatzweise auf die Reihe gebracht habe? Länger als du am Leben bist.

Hör auf die Tips in diesem Faden. Geh nach draußen such dir Hobbies und Dinge die dich Interessieren. Bibliotheken sind ein guter Zufluchtsort. Hol dir ein Notizbuch und nen guten Stift und Schreib deine Gedanken auf.

Siehs mal so, wenn du schon nichts auf die Reihe bekommst, dann kannst du wenigstens Spaß haben. Und du wirst erstaunt bemerken, dass mit dem Spaß auch ein wenig Erfolg kommen wird.