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One word: limerance. You're enjoying a fantasy as a form of emotional self-regulation. Once you realize it was a fantasy that you built up around your crush that in all likelihood you don't know all that well, it's pretty easy to get over it.
I know it’s a fantasy. I’ve been in that for six fucking months. It’s getting worse.
I’ve read the whole thread and you need to express your feelings to this person ASAP
Why did you come to that conclusion? I do want to but I want to do that in person not over text and I’m also scared. I want to ask her to coffee or brunch or something first but then I don’t know to tell her what I’m feeling. I’m just confused.
The longer the relationship stays like this, the longer you will fantasize and create a perfect image of her/the relationship in your head, which will be damaging to the actual relationship and actual person should the relationship happen