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This is literally my parents. They told me to stop criticizing the people in power, even going as far as saying I shouldn't criticize the government of my former country. I don't even have citizenship in my former country anymore, not sure how I could even get in trouble for criticizing is effecively a foreign country to me. (I'm talking about PRC btw).

My mom told me to "just focus on improving your own life and stop worrying about things like you can't control like politics" (as in, both the politics of my former country and the politics of my current country)

Am I in the wrong here? Should I just keep quiet and not say anything so that I don't "get in trouble"?

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[–] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I tell my kid both.

Keep out of trouble so when you do cause trouble, no one will point at you and say "it's probably him like last time"

I teach him to question everything, even me, and I tell him when I was wrong about something, or got new information, or that I don't know something and we look it up.

I teach him to look at why someone is doing something if it seems weird, they probably have ulterior motives.

I teach him to cover his tracks and only steal from corporations, not your neighbors, or normal everyday working people. They work hard for their possessions, steal from the rich if you have to. And do it carefully and methodical, no reason to go to jail over something basic.

I teach him to stick up for those that can't defend themselves, and ask him regularly if he's being bullied and make sure he's not bullying anyone.

We have a deal if he sees any kid, even if he doesn't know them, not eating lunch to tell me so we can pack two next time.

He did something recently he wasn't supposed to and lost his switch for the weekend. I showed him how I caught him so he can be better and sneakier.

I'm not rich by any means, but he's more privileged than most, he's very humble and looks out for others as well.

I mentioned this to a teacher I had a group dinner with when we were introducing ourselves, she looked at me like I had 3 heads. I trust my kid, trouble will happen, no doubt, he will be prepared.