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hm, I would imagine tucking could be uncomfortable while hiking - is it possible to wear baggy shorts or pants that make it possible to not tuck?
Imo, if things fit right, tucking should be comfortable for most activities. Otoh, when things don't fit right, there's enough space for things to escape, which then makes them prone to unpleasant feelings. I have a pair of boyshorts that are supposed to be for tucking, but because they're too loose, they can cause problems and don't actually flatten well.
I tuck for comfort, not for looks.
hm, I don't see a way I could tuck comfortably for a hike. I get rashes on my skin if I even just wear my bra too long after a run, so this might be more a me problem. I can't wear closed-toed shoes longer than a few hours without risking a rash. Same with underwear, I have found it causes rashes on my lower back if I wear it all day, though women's underwear tends to be better for this - I don't think it would be when sweating and being active.
Another difference with me: I have had an orchi and my genitals were small to start with and don't really move around much. I don't love the remaining scrotum and sometimes it can give me a sickening dysphoria if it slaps against a thigh (🤢), but it's not as problematic as before.
So, I generally don't wear any underwear when I run or hike, etc.
I guess when it's cold enough I do wear leggings that have a mild tucking effect, but maybe not enough for girlies with larger bits.
Oh, I hike day trips all the time while tucking. I don't really notice anymore haha. I just don't want to smell bad on a three-day trip!
ooo, interesting - well, it sounds like you have much greater insights into this than me 😄. I wonder if using the same gaff or tucking underwear you use on day-trips would work, but either bringing more (to swap out each day), and/or bring a way to wash them and dry them overnight (maybe less ideal, but for longer trips that might make sense).
This issue probably generalizes well to underwear in general, this reddit thread mentions bringing an extra pair and then alternating, cleaning the old pair and letting it dry while wearing the clean pair, then swapping the next day. It sounds like as long as the tucking underwear is synthetic and not cotton it should be fine?
Anyway, look forward to hearing how it goes and what you learn!