this post was submitted on 07 Jun 2025
860 points (92.8% liked)
Witches VS Patriarchy
624 readers
570 users here now
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
This is lovely and wholesome, but you're not the type of person the post is about.
Edit: sorry I just realised my comment was kinda glib, so let me elaborate. You didn't specify but I assumed you approached those women with a friendly air, having a genuine desire to have a conversation with them as equals, and said something like "oh I love that album, have you listened to it?" Putting yourself in their shoes, compare that to a guy who approaches them aggressively, having a deep seated resentment for all women, and lashes out with "pretending you like that band huh? Prove it then, name 5 of their songs!"
Thank you for a common sense response to my post. The problem is that ALL standard-issue white boomer men like me have become the enemy, and we all take the blame for assholes who would behave poorly no matter what their sex, age, race, etc.
I have become somewhat activist about sweeping generalizations about people. It isn't right when MAGA Nazis disparage undocumented immigrants as a whole, and it isn't right when young people or women, etc. disparage older white men as a whole. Most of us are decent reasonable people, it's just that the jerks are far louder, so they get the attention.
"Boomer" isnt restricted to age. Its a mindset.
Consider finding another word for "Boomer mindset" or just use the full phrase if you wish to be widely understood.
Ok boomer.
This was disappointing to read. This post was talking about a specific type of person that was not you, it was not about "how all older white men are the enemy," and you took it personally. When someone gently told you that you weren't being targeted, you doubled down and got even more defensive.
I'm sorry, but no one was making sweeping generalizations. We're talking about a very specific situation that was never stated to be all men.
I don't understand how your feelings are hurt by a post that had nothing at all to do with you. Judging from your comment, you were never one of the bad ones this post was calling out. It'll be okay. And there may be other situations where it makes sense to talk about blanket distrust of men that might make life harder for genuinely good guys, though it's not relevant in this post specifically.
But do you understand how offensive it comes off to equate MAGA Nazis on the same level as mens' feelings being hurt? The rule of law is being ignored, people are being disappeared, we're moving closer to Gilead, and the Lemkin Institute issued a genocide warning regarding MAGA blood libel and trans people. How are hurt feelings in any way comparable?
I wish we could have one post in a woman-centric community sharing difficult situations without one of the good men lashing out because they felt personally attacked.
As a standard-issue white boomer man we should be mad at the assholes for being assholes and not the people who want to avoid the assholes.
Those assholes make us look bad, and there's not really anything we can do but speak up if and when we see it.
That's the thing. I've never actually seen it in real life. Only in videos.
Just spent four days at a metal festival, people are going to be excited if you have a shirt of a band they wanna watch too. Spent a bunch of time talking to people about the band shirt i was wearing. There where women involved and people of all ages. It was brilliant. At some point one guys asked around the table what our favorite songs where. No weird "stop a random and demand 5 songs. "I sometimes think this is an america-only occurance.