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Two weeks ago, I had a date with a girl I met through a dating app. She was really nice, we had a great conversation and she told in person at the bar she would love to see me again.

Well fast forward a week, I keep texting her to set something up, but she's not responding. I think she's ghosted me. I mean, that's fine, but if you don't want to date me anymore, then just let me know. I will respect your decision.

Dating is so frustrating sometimes... It's really fucking hard and I sometimes feel lonely because of my lack of success. I have a good job and I'm a nice guy... but eh... I digress.

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[–] Fabrik872@apollo.town 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Do you guys with successful dating experience think it was worth it? I got ghosted only once and it took me quite some time in tinder even to get to that point but after that i gave up on people and i am more focusing on work and my hobby and i think i am quite happy i have much less suicide tougths than in my dating phase.

[–] gonzo0815@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Same here. Dating apps are pure poison for my mental well being. It made me realise I need professional help with my depression. But guess what my therapist wants me to do now. Use dating apps again, lol.

[–] Fabrik872@apollo.town 3 points 1 year ago

Will you try it again? If yes in a different app? On some post on lemmy i heard about open source dating app probably not very popular but this could be better since the target of the app is not get money from you but make you happy to donate them and also it would be very cool to find someone else who likes nerdy open source software because most people who i know are quite the oposite.

[–] Fabrik872@apollo.town 2 points 1 year ago

You know what? i will give it a chance if i find how it is called

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 year ago

My dude I have touched so many boobs. Top tier experience highly recommend.

Less crassly I've had a lot of fun and met some fantastic people.

There's a lot of frustrations but, ehh, such is life.

But for you specifically , if you're happy as you are don't sweat it.

[–] RampageDon@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Do what makes you happy. If dating puts you in a bad place just don't. But also know a relationship won't just fall into your lap. It takes work from all parties involved. So if being someone is your ultimate end game it might be worth figuring out a system that works for you, dating app or otherwise.
I feel like it was worth it for me. I also learned a lot about myself and what I was ultimately looking for in a partner. Also the things I needed to improve about myself if I was going to hold a partner to those standards. It took quite a lot of dates for me to really figure it all out though, but once I did it made it all a lot easier.
Just remember in the end dating apps are trying to take your money and keep you satisfied while doing their best to also not get you into a relationship as they lose their product when you do.