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Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response. I try not to let these type of interactions get to me because I know I should not let stranger’s opinion be able to affect me that much. I should be the gatekeeper of my emotions and what I let affect me. I just was already not having a great day yesterday, and being treated poorly for literally no reason, and realizing I wasted my time sharing my ideas just put me a bit over the edge.
And you’re right, these kinds of interactions are just something that happens as being a part of the internet and even just as part of humanity in the real world too. Bad actors are bad actors.
First off, I'm so sorry to hear you were having a bad day. That really sucks and I feel for you, friend. It happens to us all and I hope things look up for you soon! They usually do and stuff like this comes and goes in waves.
You can't always help this. We are emotional creatures. Feeling emotions is just something we do, and you don't have to check that baggage at the door. You are entitled and valid for having a feeling in response to that situation. In my opinion you're not wrong about feeling bad/upset either. You should be upset for getting dumped on like that. We just have to be mindful to let it guide our decisions sensibly. Don't feel bad for feeling bad. You are justified in this situation.
Please, please, please don't see your contribution as a waste, despite the response you got. The way others respond is not always a great indicator of the quality of your contribution, particularly if you don't exactly trust those individuals deeply. That's kind of the problem with online communities like this, not everyone responds affirmatively even if they think it actually is a great idea. It's hard to really know. It's absolutely validating when someone outright says it, but on the same hand the negativity, especially if it's not constructive, should be taken with a grain of salt. For all you know, someone could have seen your idea and run with it already, or come up with something else good based on it. You may never know though, and that's okay. The intent of putting an idea out there is good, and thank you for doing that. Please don't stop doing that.