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If you feel like a loser now, getting a gf won't change that feeling, trust me. Focus on yourself, doing something that gives you a feeling of progress, purpose, and/or joy (for me it was EOOD but it could be anything for you).

If you do that, you're guaranteed to get some kind of progress on that feeling you have of being a loser which people can sense (you're wrong btw, you're beautiful) and instead start exuding a bit of confidence.

Confidence is extremely attractive, and you want to have a relationship based on your confident self anyway, not one where your self-worth is based upon your being "with someone".

Just my experience.