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Are you trying to be a bully?
Not really but no offense, you seem to be a bit lost in the sauce. If you are this caught up in these kinds of thought patterns you probably radiate some very strange energy to the people around you. I may or may not read too much into that but you seem like the kind of person who would trauma dump a decade of issues onto someone who's showing even the slightest bit of interest in you. It's exhausting for people to perform this kind of emotional labor which is why the "liberal" types as you put it may avoid you.
If you can afford it, get professional help if you don't do therapy yet. But don't mistake your friends or your date for a therapist.
The left welcomes the strange fyi.
Yeah you're just being a bully.
Although their tone wasn't the softest, they have a point.
When you have to go through people's post history and attack them for thing that have nothing to do with the conversation, you lost the argument.
What argument do you think I'm making? I posted about some things I was going through, was clearly looking for general advice (not debate), got name-called and demeaned by one person out of nowhere while others gave normal advice, tried to make the person aware that they were violating the tone set forth in the post, got attacked further, tried to fight back and what - now I'm in a debate? I didn't sign up for a debate session or a roast. This is obviously a vulnerable post and should be pretty easy to follow suit with the other commenters who posted normally. Not everything related to constructive criticism is about debate. You can provide constructive criticism without offering debate per se.
Weird you automatically connect gun-nut to Israel support. Also weird you look into the background of someone giving you advice.
Seems to me your issues stated in your post could be solved by looking inward not outward. Maybe the "gaslighting" you claim is actually just criticism you don't like.
You keep adding parts to your comment. Just make a new comment.
I've turned inward plenty. It's valid that I feel gaslit. I should trust my instincts.
No the other guy effing loves Israel. You love guns. Also why are you making a big deal of me awkwardly trying to solve some issues in my life by calling it weird? Don't you think I have a reason to be on here? You're both being straight up bullies.