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I checked out at "it's not like school" but you got me to go back and read, yikes
That moment when I'm disqualified from a venting question for going over the meter.
It’s actually a pretty serious problem. It’s not so much that you’re disqualified, as that you’re ineffective at being heard.
This is a serious problem. Have you considered listening to great speeches, or rap, or poetry?
Not in particular, no. In what way are you suggesting I'd use that?
Listen to lots and lots of them. Absorb their patterns, to adopt those patterns, to improve your own communication.
Oh, that. I've tried that with other things. I'm finding it difficult, perhaps it's my mind going a different way.
Wat
You two said it was "beyond work drama" and came across like it was unfitting as a result. Are we only expected to describe events that go below a certain glass ceiling of conflict?
That was all you. We neither said nor implied any such thing.
The first comment you replied to contrasted things that seemed "beyond work drama" with the "juicy work drama" they were looking for.
Correct.
And that isn't supposed to send the message some of you think it's unfitting?
Also correct.
"What you just said goes way beyond the original topic" does not at all imply "shut the fuck up about it". That's an implication you created out of your own subconscious biases.
The discussion we're having right now has strayed pretty far from the original topic, but I'm not disapproving of it.
I never said it implied "shut up" if that's where the confusion comes from.
That means "shut up".
Or "dismissed."
I don't mean "shut up" though, those are on their own words put into my mouth. Something I don't aim to do in asking how implying my answer contrasts with the intention of the question doesn't in turn imply said answer is unfitting.
I have spoken.