First off, good on you for being aware of the fact that you have BPD and for working on yourself. I mean that sincerely. You probably don't realize that you are a statistical anomoly, at least based on my extensive research. Very, very few people with BPD are ever diagnosed and probably fewer still possess the emotional awareness to even acknowledge that they have a borderline personality.

Second, you shouldn't take OP's comments personally. Yes, BPD is a horrible mental illness. And as someone who spent six years married to someone who I am 99.99% sure has undiagnosed BPD, I understand it much better than I want to. I could make a movie about that chapter of my life and it would be like watching a horrible Trainwreck. Over the years I've read and heard horror story after horror story from other people with SO's, parents, and friends who are struggling with BPD (virtually all of them unknowingly) and honestly, BPD has earned every single bit of its stigma.

You just happen to be in a better situation than most of the people who struggle with it.