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[–] InternetUser2012@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I went from an in debt jobless alcoholic that really did not want to live, to being pretty much debt free (car loan) and having a six figure job that I'm really doing well in.

The turning point was meeting my best friend/soul mate and not accepting who I had turned into. I got a job and really worked my ass off to catch up, quit drinking, then quit smoking, and then things just started turning around. I'd really like to say it was from all the hard work, and maybe it was, but I can't help but feel I just got lucky.

[–] alternativeninja@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

As a 28 year old lazy scraping by alchohlic I hope my brains not too fucked up. It's only when I see posts like this that I (generally temporarily) reflect on it.

I guess scraping by isn't the right word. I have money and a good income. I just am checked out. Hate my job, drunk most of the time, have no idea what I want to do with my life. No real social contact.

If I wanted to "get it together" I'd have to start over. I work in IT and I hate it. I want nothing to do with it ever again for the rest of my life. Ever.

I'm pretty sure I've permadamaged it at this point though. Bleh.

[–] HashinHenry@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I've struggled with substance abuse. Get sober and give it 6 months. The human brain is amazing, it will snap back. Just gotta give it a chance to adjust.

[–] Tedrick02@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

No time like now to take a step towards what you want to do. Do you have anything you're interested in doing? Just taking the first steps can lighten the load and help see the light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe a class or planning for your new career might take some time out of your busy drinking schedule.

[–] MammyWhammy@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I've found out the luckiest people I know also tend to work very hard to make the best out of the lucky breaks they get.

You could be the luckiest person in the world and still not improve themselves.