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I think I could help with this since I lived with an adult bully for about 1.5 which was a horrible experience, but I took it as a major learning lesson and promised myself that I would be a support and advocate for victims. So, here's what I learned.
Bullies are predators that look for what they think would be the easiest victim. They need to bully because they are extremely insecure, yet the bullying makes them feels superior in their heads. So, know that their weakness is insecurity, and they see a weakness in you. Using this info, you can work on their weakness to show you're not an easy target by protecting yours, and they won't get the sense of superiority out of bullying you.
Tips:
Do not play their game.
Have very solid boundaries.
Be grounded in your truth.
Greyrock. Greyrock. Greyrock.
I-statements.
As adults, they are playing a social game.
Do not speak poorly of anyone else.
Do not share anything personal with the bully.
If you see them bully someone else, become a source of support for them.
Know that as long as you are not dealing with a lethally dangerous psychopath, you have already won.
If this is a person threatening your safety, then you need to collect evidence and get authorities involved.
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Wow. All very well said. I'm sorry someone made you this informed on the subject.
Thank you! While I understand the sentiment, I'm happy that I can help others out of it now, too. One of those bittersweet things, I guess.
I try to do the same thing. It makes the suffering not hurt as much. It's hard to see others go through the pain, though, and someone recently reached out to me when they saw it in me, so I'm trying to pass the empathy on. Keep being a force for good, and thank you for helping others!
I appreciate it very much, and I'm so sorry you were going through that! It wasn't your fault, everything they said were lies, and you were chosen because you are a wonderful person. Keep on keeping on! Don't forget to eat, and even if it 100% seems like it won't, it does get better. Feel free to reach out to me ❤️
Edit: Fun Fact: My username is a reference to me coming back to myself after the abuse 🤪