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This. This right here.
Amio shared their thoughts and their intention to end the conversation. You replied. They didn't. You reply to yourself 3 hours later with the equivalent of "Told you so! I win!"
It's arrogant and entitled. Nobody owes you conversation. In my book, that's one strike towards getting blocked.
I don't want a win. I swear to God. I just want to understand where all this seething anger is coming from. There is no winning here. I know I'm a loser already.
Well, I don't know if you're a loser or not, but are you closer to understanding now than you were when you asked the question?
Not really. The person came in and went straight to calling me a troll and weird. Then disappeared. And then when I questioned them you came in and said I'm an asshole for daring to push back.
Like, hostility all around.
Like you offer that individual all the charitability they could get. But me? Fuck me I guess.
Alright. You got me!
For a moment there, you actually had me thinking that you wanted to know why you see so much hostility.
We've spent two days pointing out various examples of you acting like an obnoxious asshole, so you can learn from that and communicate in a way that doesn't involve hostility from others. The intent is so you can learn and think "Oh, now that you point it out, I see how that could come across!" But no. You keep arguing with people and whining about how we're being so mean. I'm done with you. And I hope your future conversations bring you the reactions they deserve. Strike 3. Blocked.
I don't want a gotcha.
I want to understand why it's OK for someone to come in and make sniping remarks and call me a troll. They get zero condemnation from you. But because you all have decided I'm an asshole, that's OK. I even granted yea it's possible my rhetoric came across abrasive - even though, again, to be clear: trying to ascertain the facts of the matter of a situation should not automatically relegate someone to a label.
I gave grace. I never labeled anyone anything. Not even the person that called me a troll. I didn't lob insults at anyone.
And yet.
The onus is on me to apologize and reflect. At least thats the vibe I'm getting from you.