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[–] multifariace@lemmy.world 2 points 32 minutes ago

Like all those current billionaires?

[–] folaht@lemmy.ml 6 points 9 hours ago

I don't know if he was the most awful person I ever knew, but in the 45 minutes I've known him, he talked about his trip in Thailand that was all about drugs and women in a disturbing manner. He offered me to play throwing giant switchblades at a dartboard, which I accepted, not wanting to appear rude. Porn was playing and bags of white powder were laying around on the coffee table while we wrecked the dartboard completely. I can't recall but I think there were also pictures of people on them to which he said that it would make the game more interesting. He then showed me the rest of his apartment. I thanked him, told him that I would need some time to think about becoming his roomie and would call him back and walked out of there never to return there again.

Didn't call the police or mentioned this to anybody and thankfully never saw him again, so no idea.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 5 points 9 hours ago

Sexually abused a child. He's in prison but still was able to send a message to someone in our group expressing his hope to hang out again when he gets out. So no, he didn't get what he deserved.

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Physically, mentally, and emotionally abused his biological son and me, threatened my mother with a firearm, tried to have his debts pushed onto my mother(including his companies bankruptcy). Blamed a lot of it on his pain medication after he hurt his back(even the shit that happened years before then). He is what led to a large part of my family finally breaking.

Last I saw of him, we was sitting alone in a shitty hotel bar with no one to talk to, unemployed, and living in his late mother's rotting home. He deserved worse. If there was a hell, it would be a paradise against what he deserves in my eyes.

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

what a god-awful human being.

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

He was an abusive narcist. I hate throwing the term around, but it's the only thing that fit his personality and mental condition. It took my mother over 13 years to break free.

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

im so sorry that happened, by the way :( i don’t even know him and i hate how he sounds. how are you doing now?

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Better now, I like to think. Still working through some of the anger left from that time because it was an unhealthy crutch I leaned on. Had to work through a lot of complexes I didn't realize I had.

And, in a fucked up way, that time gives me pride in who I am. A poly-pan transwoman, everything that would piss him off to see. I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud, because I had to get past the hate for myself he tried to push into me. It's another push to keep standing, speaking and fighting for myself and those like me, because no one should have to walk that path and wear this armor.

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

who was he in relation to you? and i’m so proud you get to express yourself :) im poly, pan, and male for now but questioning transfem

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Stepfather. Was the only reason I got my chance to get out before things got really bad, my father finally sat my mother down and threatened to take everything to court if he had to, she could stay in the shit if she wanted, but he was getting me out and getting everything we needed to protect ourselves.

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 3 points 23 hours ago

i hope that man went to jail, im sorry he didn’t accept your identity

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

i totally get it. this isn’t as bad as yours but my “friend” fucked up my mental state for a while, nothing was ever good enough for them, they treated me like an animal that they could control. they’re only nice when they need attention/validation, they would act like nothing happened and that everything was fine after calling me useless just before.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 14 points 22 hours ago

She was a manager who bullied a handful of people out of their jobs. She tried it on me as well, but I was an outside employee on site to do tech support and my manager and company backed me up. Still a horrible time in my life.

The weird thing is, even after her bosses figured out what she was doing to her staff and put her on a short leash with restrictions on what she could do or say, she still kept it up. Maybe it was compulsive behaviour. A little while later she suddenly announced that she was leaving to start a business as a life coach(!) so reading between the lines it was probably a case of quit or be fired.

I bumped into her again and she was working as a kind of HR manager for students at a university. But I also just checked her Linkedin page and it looks like she's doing life coaching again. This is a small industry and word gets around so if there's justice in the universe, she's been black-balled.

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

No, one of them became president and the other one won the November election

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

hopefully we get better luck in 2028

[–] rbn@sopuli.xyz 3 points 19 hours ago

After all they did in just the first weeks, I highly doubt that there'll be just another fair following the regular rules. I really hope I'm wrong though.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My dad’s third wife told me she shouldn’t have even paid for my plane ticket when he died. She married into extreme comfort, so this was a truly hateful statement. It was the most petty thing I’ve ever heard. She has always been a monster. I resolved never to interact with her ever again.

She got an extraordinary payday when my dad died. For her to get what she deserves, she’d have to shack up with a con artist who swindles it out of her. I don’t care about her enough to think about her now that she’s out of my life. Hideous, gross person.

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 5 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

I love wealthy people like that.

It's like they know on some unconscious level just how small and insignificant they really are, but can't pair it mentally with the fortune they find themselves in.

So rather than deal with the idea of luck and circumstance being the main factors of their existence, they lean hard on the idea that they deserve it by merit of simply being a superior being to others, and reinforce this belief into their head everyday with small acts of cruelty.

I laugh at the sheer insecurity of it.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 9 hours ago

insecurity

Nailed it.

[–] Zak@lemmy.world 8 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I knew someone who raped both his daughters.

He was prosecuted and took a plea deal, probably offered to spare them a trial. I think he did about ten years in prison, which I would argue is less punishment than he deserved.

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 1 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

i agree, he deserved a life sentence. just TEN years for raping his daughters?

[–] Zak@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

If I remember right, he would have been eligible for a life sentence for the original charges.

[–] RicoSuave@feddit.cl 1 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

that makes a lot of sense. why wasn’t he given one?

[–] JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago

Because he took a plea deal, which was probably offered so that they wouldn't have to hold a trial. At least, that's what I gathered from the information at hand

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 10 points 1 day ago

I watched someone beat an opossum to death with a shovel as a child. They told me that's just what you did with opossums and couldn't understand why I was crying. It was just minding its own business and they decided they had to kill it for some reason. The sound and image is seared into my head and I'll never get it out. I dunno if they ever got what was coming to them, but I hope they did.

I had a group of """friends""" for slightly over a decade who were very abusive towards me. I was too lonely and desperate to walk away, and they knew that, so I endured the emotional abuse until they finally decided they were bored with me. I probably won't ever fully heal from that. Last I heard the group had broken apart, but afaik that was all that happened.

At least I have better people in my life now, but the events of the latter mean I'm always on edge and just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I'm waiting for someone to pull the rug out from under me and show me they were just getting me attached so they could abuse me too.

[–] Psionicsickness@reddthat.com 4 points 23 hours ago

Won’t tell you the what, but nah, I’m still here.

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm the most awful by merit of being an obnoxious idiot, and not yet but there's still plenty of time