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I'm losing my will to fight. You're losing your will to fight. In the last few weeks, you've been nothing but despair. I am trying to hold it together so I can keep up the fight. But it's been getting harder. All the levity has been lost. I guess I got more levity from you than I realized. I don't know how I became so dependent on you. Isolation has become the norm for us, I guess. But right now, all I know is that I can't do this without you. You've gotta stay strong, and stay light. So that I can stay strong, and stay light.

Yes, you. The faceless mass.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 20 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Reading the news and posting angry messages on social media isn’t fighting. If you’re doing something beyond that, good for you - but the vast majority of so-called "activists" aren’t. They’re just venting anger and spreading it to others while achieving nothing worthwhile.

If my goal were to "change the world," I’d probably live in despair too. But it’s not. Instead, I run a small local business where I help people with their everyday technical challenges. I get to make a tangible difference in people’s lives and see their gratitude firsthand. Life has never felt more meaningful.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 4 points 1 day ago

You are changing the world, your little corner of it.

That's how it's done.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

… but the vast majority of so-called “activists” aren’t …

This kind of "activist" is best termed a "slacktivist".

[–] UniversalMonk@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This kind of “activist” is best termed a “slacktivist”.

And they make up the majority of Lemmy! lmao

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

And they make up the majority of ~~Lemmy~~Internet users in general! lmao

Fixed that for you. 😉

[–] Servais@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

FYI, they've been banned since then.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 2 points 1 hour ago

Oh, I didn't catch who it was or I'd not have responded.

Another account banned. That's a repeating pattern and yet he can't seem to figure it out, despite how "smart" he puts on airs over.

[–] UniversalMonk@lemm.ee 0 points 1 day ago
[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There are many people being careful of what they say on public forums. Don't let that make you think there are not people ready and willing. Many people seem to speak more freely over on Rednote. There's a lot of posts over there. I'm just stating observations.

[–] breadsmasher@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

If people are serious about this sort of thing they'll have to realize it's not about freeing Luigi but being Luigi

I don't condone illegal acts, just pointing out where that line of thought goes

[–] Pronell@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I am not losing my will to fight.

I know the fight has only begun. And I know that, in the small chance that we win, we can create something better and more just.

It isn't about believing we can prevail, but in knowing I'll fight for as long as I can, because giving up isn't an option.

You can still temporarily retreat, regroup, and practice self-care. In fact it's gonna be essential. Take your time. We will have to be at this for a while.

I'm glad you're with us. We need all the allies we have.

[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 11 points 1 day ago

I’ve honestly never felt more determined to fight in my entire life. I am learning to find joy in the act of struggle in spite of all the darkness around us. Win lose or draw I’m going to keep going. And I have been finally taking the time to reach out and find the others who are ready to join me in this. It is liberating.

[–] cyrano@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago
[–] taiyang@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

If it makes you feel better, just today out my window on a boulevard, a fuckton of angry teenagers were marching down the street with with Mexican and American flags chanting fuck ICE. I personally don't think they should skip school over a protest, but there's a lot of fight left in the world, even if it's not here on Lemmy.

That said, idk if it's recent news making me personally tired. I already have a 1 year old doing that, it's pretty bad timing for me to save the world. But you, keep fighting.

[–] Carnelian@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Love you too, friend <3

It’s gonna be okay. We were gonna have to keep fighting either way. The road was always gonna be long. The group of people sowing this despair was still gonna be there.

Have you ever played Getting Over It by Bennet Foddy? It’s a game about climbing a mountain. The classic experience players have is they spend hours and hours making progress, only to fall down and lose it, sometimes falling all the way back down to the very beginning.

It is truly despairing to think that you’ve lost all your progress. But…what if you haven’t actually lost any progress at all? Your position on the mountain has changed, that much is certain. But in reality, your journey to the top has not been interrupted in any way. Sometimes, losing progress is just a part of the journey. The top of the mountain may seem like it’s nearly in reach, but it’s not our place to know if we are actually close this time, or about to fall down again.

It’s also not our place to know if this next time is the one where we’ll finally make it. The important thing, no matter where we are physically on the mountain, no matter how many setbacks we face, no matter if we can almost taste the summit or if we’re so dejected that we cannot imagine ever reaching it, is to keep climbing. We just have to keep climbing.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 6 points 1 day ago

Then let's fight together!

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Fuck, I barely had the will to fight to begin with. Now I wonder why I wake up.

[–] UniversalMonk@lemm.ee -4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Nah, not only am I not "losing my will to fight," I'm having a great time. I don't take anything online seriously.

Lemmy is NOT real life. It's an echo-chamber full of people bitching and moaning about the world ending who just love to doomscroll, and then brag about what meds they are taking to cope. It's fucking weird.

Meanwhile in real life in my neighborhood here in the US, people are visiting parks, flying kites with kids, taking walks with their dogs. I see kids riding their bikes to get ice cream. I hear kids on the playground nearby playing tag and laughing. Guy across the street is shooting the shit with his friends and having a beer. They invited me over for a bbq.

But according to Lemmy we're all doomed and about to be marched into deathcamps.

Not gonna happen.

World's not gonna end Lemmy. I promise.

[–] JokeDeity@lemm.ee 4 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Found the Trumper. I don't know what fantasy you're living in, but it's definitely not America.

[–] UniversalMonk@lemm.ee -3 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

I'm not a Trumper. I didn't vote for Trump. I actually voted socialist party, friend.

And yep, I live here in America. Not fantasy at all. I described what was happening outside in my view just as I was writing it.

[–] SoftwareSlicer@beehaw.org 1 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

As important and as concerning as many current events are especially in relation to American politics, I didn't consider that I needed to read this. Thanks for providing that perspective. It's a crazy world both in here and out there imo and I think the best we can do given the circumstances is to be careful about how we consume as that can promote apathy and further doomscrolling. Instead, I feel like it's for the best for any of us here to create. Doesn't matter what you make, Where you are at, or how skilled you may be but I hope for the best in all of us!

[–] antiquity2038@reddthat.com 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

YSK UniversalMonk is pretty much yet another fascist, with being a regular on c/conservative and defending Trump on many issues here.

Yes, many people are still living on their lives in the U.S. with not much difference, and doomscrolling doesn't help. But all the executive orders of Trump are not meaningless and all the daily illegal ICE deportations are not lies.

It's best to focus on and support your local community, and not be pessimistic, but it's also not good to fall into such people's hands and ignore everything happening right now in the U.S.

[–] BoozeOrWater@lemm.ee 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] antiquity2038@reddthat.com 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I apologize, I had been seeing them posting on lemm.ee for a little while, so I thought that the account was still active.

[–] Servais@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 hour ago

Don't worry, it's pretty recent

[–] UniversalMonk@lemm.ee -1 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

think the best we can do given the circumstances is to be careful about how we consume as that can promote apathy and further doomscrolling

Agreed. So many on Lemmy and Reddit just doomscroll all day, all night. Never looking up to see the people around them who are smiling, going on with their lives, enjoying good conversation, hugging, kissing, laughing, etc.

The world isn't perfect. I get that. Especially depending on what country you are in.

But here in the US we have it sooooo good, it is actually rude to complain about how tough things are here, because so many other people have is way worse and actually have real problems.

Here people complain about making 80K a year on their very first jobs from college, and that their mom watches Fox News too much and/or their "all" Lemmy section has more than one post by Universal Monk. Big. Fucking. Deal. lol

[–] jet@hackertalks.com -4 points 1 day ago (3 children)

you've been nothing but despair

Life has been great, I don't know about this you business but not everybody is stuck in the despair situation, come join us outside in the sun!

[–] Mr_Canard@jlai.lu 1 points 18 hours ago

Yes you guys should go into the sun

[–] Eyekaytee@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Especially true here in Queensland 🌞

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84iRd0jnEKk

[–] UniversalMonk@lemm.ee -3 points 1 day ago

Exactly. Most of the people in this thread actually seem to prefer to be depressed and doomscroll.

But life is actually pretty fucking great.