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[–] hmonkey@lemy.lol 70 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

As a single man I'd skip meals without even realizing, but now we plan meals together and if I don't say anything she will, so I don't miss many meals now

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 26 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

It's worse if you add kids into the mix too.

[–] menjegfikk@lemmynsfw.com 57 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Why? Do they taste bad or something?

[–] Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 9 points 3 weeks ago

They have a lot of calories

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

At one point with my kids I’d just skip my normal dinner and eat the Mac and cheese and chicken nuggets they didn’t.

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago

With me it's usually I'm not hungry, and then they are so I have to make them something, but then like u said, I end up eating their leftovers after they eat 3 bites, but I'd otherwise not be eating at all til I was hungry.

[–] jqubed@lemmy.world 46 points 3 weeks ago

My wife’s a really good cook, okay?

[–] JMorningstar@lemmy.world 29 points 3 weeks ago

In other news, water is wet.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 29 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

As soon as my partner started cooking all our meals I gained weight. When it was just my lazy ass feeding me, I ate simple things like a sandwich, noodles, or a microwave meal. I have no idea what she puts in the food (it's delicious) but the caloric intake is higher than when I was feeding myself.

[–] witty_username@feddit.nl 28 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Is this correlation related to marriage specifically or can it also be observed in long-term, stable, cohabiting relationships?
In either case, what does this suggest?

[–] catloaf@lemm.ee 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'd also like to see if they controlled for age. I'm currently on my phone so I'm not when going to bother hunting down the study.

[–] witty_username@feddit.nl 6 points 3 weeks ago

Age is mentioned as a contributing factor in the news piece so they seem to have at least investigated both marriage and age (in addition to depression).
The news piece doesn't appear to link to any published study. They do mention that the findings will be presented so perhaps a peer-reviewed publication will follow too?

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 7 points 3 weeks ago

Anecdotally: I gained 50 pounds when my fiancé moved in, because like another comment said I stopped skipping meals like I did when I lived alone.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

That people presented with food are unable to regulate the amount they eat in a healthy way.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 3 weeks ago

See my other comment. We are not married. In fact, I started gaining weight before she officially moved in.

[–] SaladKing@lemm.ee 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Yeah, this is currently my problem. We don’t have anyone to help take care of the children. I cannot exercise if I don’t wake up at like 4am (all the gums are closed) and ride my bike. This takes a toll on me however.

[–] IonAddis@lemmy.world 15 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

(all the gums are closed)

I don't know why, but I find this typo hilarious.

[–] SaladKing@lemm.ee 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Lmao, meant gyms. Freaken swipe keyboard.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)
[–] SirActionSack@aussie.zone 7 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

You cannot excercise your way to weightloss without also make serious diet changes.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

Perhaps you did not read their username!

[–] SaladKing@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago

The thing is that I am eating very little. I am also almost in my 40s so my metabolism has started to slow down.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

people always say this but like, do you just think 50kg of fat is the same thing as 50kg of muscle?

[–] ChairmanMeow@programming.dev 0 points 3 weeks ago

It's not, but without a diet change you're unlikely to convert fat into muscle like that.

[–] SirActionSack@aussie.zone -1 points 3 weeks ago

I don't understand your point. It's possible to be healthy with or without excess muscle. It's not healthy to carry excess fat.

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Can confirm. Separated a year ago. I'm down 90lbs

[–] Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 2 points 3 weeks ago

Coincidentally when we met in highschool we were both toothpicks and she was 90lbs and I was like 115lbs.

[–] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 8 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

On the plus side, if you have kids they're statistically less likely to end up in prison.

[–] MuAraeOracle@real.lemmy.fan 7 points 3 weeks ago

👶 Thanks spherical dad 🪐 for keeping me out of prison.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 3 points 3 weeks ago

On the plus side

Heh

[–] zerofatorial@lemm.ee 7 points 3 weeks ago

Where is the source data for this article? It doesn’t seem to have any associated research document in its contents

[–] ShittyBeatlesFCPres@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

In my experience, when a couple moves in together (ideally on the way to getting married), their thiccness level slowly converges until they reach an equilibrium on being thicc in the britches.

Which can be good or bad. I’ve seen friends get healthier and gain unwanted weight. I’m just a neutral observer. Some people need more meat on their bones. Some people need to hike every weekend instead of drinking a 30 rack watching sports or playing on the computer or whatever. Ideally, a couple adopts each other’s best qualities.

[–] nuko147@lemm.ee 5 points 3 weeks ago

It is only three times more, because they count the unmarried men in relationship. Versus single men i bet the probability is >x10.

[–] A_norny_mousse@feddit.org 5 points 3 weeks ago

Well, I am not one of those unmarried men. I'm a really good cook, okay?

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 3 weeks ago

We've all noticed this, right? Some of it is just age, but my dad ballooned just after he married and I doubt it was a coincidence.

[–] avidamoeba@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 weeks ago

Basically the rule among the average Balkan slavs, across sexes. :D

[–] Didros@beehaw.org 3 points 3 weeks ago

Fishermen return with less bait than they sailed out to sea with. News at 11

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 3 points 3 weeks ago

Buzz feed tomorrow: You’ll Never Guess the New Greatest Diet

[–] dditty@lemm.ee 0 points 3 weeks ago

The guy in the picture does not look obese to me, just overweight

[–] werefreeatlast@lemmy.world -2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

When we stop fucking, but keep eating, our bodies have to do something.

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org -4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Why do the unmarrieds be more obese then?

[–] JasSmith@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 weeks ago

They are not. They are apparently much less likely to be obese.