The technique is a variation to emotion regulation - name the emotion then feel the emotion and let it pass through you. This allows you to process the grief in real time without it getting stuck. This absolutely works in a dysfunctional family because at the end you just go no contact with them and all is well… but this psychobabble doesn’t work when your government is the abuser because the only boundary you can set is to leave the country.
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And that boundary isn’t a reality for most of us.
Anyone feeling backed in to a corner yet?
Leaving the US is one of the best decisions I've made in my life
I moved to the states in 2005, got married, had 2 daughters. Moved us all back to my home country in 2015. I often wondered if it was the right decision and what life would have been like if we'd stayed. I haven't wondered even once since November last year.
Unfortunately, being able to just leave the country is a luxury that few people have.
There’s only one way generally that works to stop fascist leaders. It isn’t by doing what this guy suggests.
I'm disappointed it's not a guillotine.
Lmao, the psychologist is telling us we can halt fascism by "setting boundaries", "having faith" and "saying no". Lmao. This article is like concentrated liberalism.
Buy a gun.
Step 1. Convince his supporters that literally anything is wrong.
Solve that one first
HuffPost puts out a lot of filler articles, but this isn't one of them.
Even though the writer pulls a few punches in the name of professional responsibility (yes, we know Trump isn't your patient, but let's just agree, he meets all the criteria of a narcissist), Trump's use of narcissistic abuser tactics is the single most important observation we need to collectively make to recover as a country. I've been banging this drum for a long time - we are trapped in a compulsory relationship with Trump.
Mass media allows Trump to personally abuse us to ensure we keep giving him attention and acceding our power. There's no difference between us and another domestic psychological abuse victim, except that we're multiplied by 350 million and Trump has unprecedented power to make our lives miserable to get what he wants.
Until we call this what it is - narcissistic abuse - we're never going to break out of it.
The problem is that in abusive relationships the ultimate boundary is going no contact. The only way you can do that to an abusive government is immigrating to another country, this is the brain drain we’re experiencing now. At the end, the country will be full of people permanently stuck in survival mode who make no attempt at improving their conditions. Learned helplessness and hopelessness. That is the future of America unless people start fighting fire with fire. We cannot afford to “take the higher ground”, that is what got us here in the first place.
He keeps saying the Ukraine war would never have happened under him. He really believes that. Because he's a narcissist.
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I understand the sentiment. But I didn't see a whole lot of actionable things in the article.
Of course not, because there is only one actionable item and everyone is afraid to say it
Preach
I see this article as being step one or maybe I'd say step zero for people. You're healing from the abuse caused by Trump. I think even if people only did what this article suggested and nothing else it would make a fairly big different, I don't think it would completely stop him. The advice in the article applies to everyone including those in the media who are enabling Trump.
For those who's mental health is hurt following these steps will allow them to have more energy and focus for combating Trump.
If you want some actionable items I would suggest helping people boycott the biggest donors to the GOP. Boycott Elon Musk by boycotting Twitter and Boycotting Tesla, this is most important boycott since he was the biggest donor. There are initial signs the boycotts are starting to work, if we keep the pressure up we can defeat the highest donor to the GOP. Then we can move on to other high donors to the GOP such as Uline. I would also recommend in parallel start working towards building more political will for moving away from fossil fuels, since they're hurting the planet and also because they donate tons of money to the GOP.
Right. I'm sure Americans will totally get off their asses to fix things now.
Does the armchair assassin have any tips or just idle shit talk?
Use a scope, not iron sights. If that kid had had a scope he might have hit his target.
Come now, I'm doing just as much work as the Americans.
I filled in some bubbles on a piece of paper, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
Eventually sometimes we end up doing the right thing, like after trying a ton of other options we finally ended slavery by way of civil war. Or like in Armageddon when NASA couldn't get the astronauts to figure out a drilling rig we went and got Bruce Willis to get his ass to space and solve the problem via nuclear weapons.
Are you a psychologist who also specializes in ~~redacted~~?
Plumbing?
Sure. You know. Handling high-pressure blowouts and the occasional hammer job if things get complicated.
Youth in Asia?
A match-grade round travelling at 3,000 feet per second?
excellent