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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by HexaSnoot@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

It would be deeply triggering to see him and he is extremely manipulative, plus he has friends that attend the scene. Some of them were doing meth last I saw them over ten years ago.

If I make friends, they could easily link back to him through themselves or multiple people. I seriously cannot tolerate that. I don't want him knowing anything about me and my life.

Do you think I can manage being part of a small scene with these conditions?

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[-] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Have you considered using a fake name? I doubt anyone but him would recognize you after this long.

People use fake names for privacy in political organizing all the time.

[-] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

That's a good idea. I should use a highly common name so if they spot me and hear what name I'm going by, it's still a little harder for them to ask around for me.

[-] Spongebobsquarejuche@hexbear.net 4 points 3 months ago

How about Shooter Hot Rod?

[-] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 3 months ago

I'll go by Hot Rod for short

[-] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 17 points 3 months ago

Ultimately only you can really tell if you can handle it. I would say go with a friend, have multiple exit plans, and don't force yourself to stay in a situation where you're uncomfortable. If you catch wind he might be there and you don't think you can handle the stress, bail. That's what I'd do, anyway.

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