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I am very new and very dumb. kitty-cri

Please give me directions that are /srs

I will most likely not detect sarcasm and struggle without explicit instructions. creature

I am on mobile currently. I'm supposed to be asleep. I am not asleep. I'm hyperfixated on new internet place.

I haven't quite figured out the UI yet but it might just not be optimized for mobile. Is there an app or should I just wait until I get back on my PC?

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[–] blight@hexbear.net 19 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Hello and welcome!

You can set your pronouns in top right hamburger menu - [your name] - settings, and then pronouns should be the first thing in the list. You need to scroll down a bit for the Save button.

[–] MajesticalDiscomfort@hexbear.net 17 points 5 days ago (5 children)

Thank you!! I got it now!! There were so many :o

Was hoping I'd see mirror pronouns as an option, but it's ok!

Is there a way to request pronoun options?

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 17 points 5 days ago

I believe you just have to DM one of the admins. I don't know who usually handles the pronouns, but @CARCOSA@hexbear.net would most likely be able to help doggirl-thumbsup

[–] CARCOSA@hexbear.net 12 points 4 days ago

The pronoun option "mirror/your pronouns" are now available

I'll ask in the mod chat

Mirror pronouns have been added to the options now btw

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[–] MLRL_Commie@hexbear.net 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Glad that got handled for you! Our admins are really good when it comes to this, the best.

If you don't mind, I've never encountered these pronouns and would want to hear your explanation for how to use them to address you!

Id also enjoy reading about the why/how for your pronouns, but I won't pry for that info. If you are the type to happily share such info, though, feel free!

[–] MajesticalDiscomfort@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Of course! If someone uses mirror pronouns, it just means they want to be referred to by whatever pronouns you use. If two people with mirror pronouns want to refer to each other, usually there are backup pronouns (my backup is they/them) to keep things from getting confusing xD

Not everyone will be comfortable using mirror pronouns because if you are dysphoric towards a particular gender, someone of the gender you're dysphoric with would refer to you with pronouns you're not comfortable with.

However, I consider myself agender, and while I don't want to be percieved as any particular gender, I also want to be friendlier with people and hope that "matching" the person I'm talking to will make developing friendships easier. creature

Other people may have different motivations, but that one is mine. Since I only get dysphoric when someone assumes I'm a gender they don't like (not even sure if that's dysphoria tbh) I'd rather just chameleon to whoever I'm talking to. party-blob

I'm speaking with someone who uses he/him? I'd prefer he uses he/him to describe me.
I'm speaking with someone who uses she/they? I'd prefer they use she/they to describe me.
This applies to every kind of pronoun.
[–] Edie@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Not all at the same time haha But any of the ones you prefer are fine!

[–] MLRL_Commie@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

Thanks! That was a very nice description and a cool take on pronouns. Hope you enjoy your stay here at Hexbear!

[–] Thordros@hexbear.net 12 points 5 days ago

Hello! Happy to have you!

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 12 points 5 days ago

Welcome ! Also you're not dumb, it can be a bit hard to find headpat

[–] PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

Welcome! Personally I use the mobile site, and there's no mobile app for Hexbear specifically. However, Hexbear is part of a network of sites called Lemmy that can optionally federate with each other and see each other's posts/comment on each other's sites. Which instances federate with each other is a whole bunch of drama, but I digress. There are some Lemmy apps that you can use to browse Hexbear, but we have some custom features like pronouns and the emoji picker that may or may not be supported.

Jerboa is a popular Lemmy app, I think

[–] propter_hog@hexbear.net 12 points 5 days ago

Jerboa is by far the best mobile app. I had to set my pronouns on the mobile website, and it shows up in Jerboa after that.

[–] Pandantic@hexbear.net 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I use Thunder, on which I can change my display name. Are there still some that can’t show Hexbear emojis?

[–] PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS@hexbear.net 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You'll be able to view the emojis fine because they're just linked images. It's just that we have a lot of them, and there are features that will allow you to search for them and automatically add them into your posts/comments that don't work in (most? any?) of the mobile apps

[–] Pandantic@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

There were some apps when Hexbear first federated that didn’t display them or displayed them poorly, messing up the formatting. I was on Memmy, but switched to Thunder because Memmy can’t handle the formatting (I just checked, it still can’t).

[–] Aradina@lemmy.ml 1 points 4 days ago

I remember the days of the Giant Emoji

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago
[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago

Welcome welcome

[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago

Hi Mawdy! Welcome to hexbear!!! ralsei-wave

I think blight answered the pronouns question, but if there’s anything else you wanna know, don’t hesitate to ask.

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago

Also, welcome to Hexbear ralsei-wave

[–] ShimmeringKoi@hexbear.net 8 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Whoa I've never seen creature before, that rules. Hi, you seem nice and it's nice to meet youparty-parrot

[–] Lemmygradwontallowme@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

kirby-wave

Also, repost this to the new community c/howdy

Thank you!! I didn't know that was a thing :O

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 5 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Is there an app

There's actually an app I use (on android) called Jerboa, and I feel like it makes the site much easier to use. The only downside is that custom emojis can't be used unless you remember the codes, but it's not the worst thing in the world and the UI is so much better. Jerboa's also developed by the same developers that work on Lemmy.