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submitted 2 weeks ago by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/hexbear@hexbear.net

Hello users of hexbear, we have started discussions with an admin of lemmy.ca regarding potential refederation. Lemmy.ca had added hexbear to their blocklist about a year ago: https://lemmy.ca/post/3326347

With the recent changes in lemmy features as well as a maturing fediverse the mods/admins of hexbear and lemmy.ca are open to trying again, but before we put lemmy.ca on our allow-list we wanted to open up discussion and voting to the users of hexbear.

This vote will be binding with regard to adding lemmy.ca to our allow-list. In addition, the idea of including sh.itjust.works in this discussion was raised but was voted down by a majority of mods from inclusion.

https://lemmy.ca/c/canada and https://lemmy.ca/c/pcgaming are the instance's top two communities but there are a few other small, niche communities. A community that may be removed from hexbear is the https://lemmy.ca/c/fediverselore so please indicate your opinion on this community if you have one.

As usual please use

dean-smile if you would like lemmy.ca to be added to our allow-list

dean-frown if you would like lemmy.ca to not be added to our allow-list

We will leave this post unlocked for a few days before making the decision, thank you. Users may also use this post for a general discussion on federation including naming instances for federation/defederation or feedback for the hexbear admin/mod team.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net

Hello users of Hexbear, I am making this post to notify all users of the following:

Going forward comments giving unsolicited advice will be removed, comments that are critical of any mutual aid post or user will be removed, posts containing opsec leaks will be removed, posts containing payment links will be removed.

Posts containing personally identifiable information (PII) will result in a temporary ban from the mutual aid community

Posts or comments that state specific amounts received will be removed, please consider editing the title of a mutual aid post to include the mutual aid request has been received.

We strongly advise you ask people to send you a direct message to obtain information regarding payment.

Consider not make comments about getting large anonymous donations or about what the money gets spent on.

If you want to make a meta comment, provide advice/resources or hold another user accountable, then please make a separate post in this community but do not ping them or specifically/explicitly link their hexbear account to another hexbear account.

Users cannot assume that any post has been vetted and must do their own investigation.

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submitted 4 months ago by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/music@hexbear.net

cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2338399

Hello, users of hexbear as of this post anonymous users will no longer be allowed on Hextube no will users be able to create channels, you may use this post to request additional channels. At the moment there is:

https://live.hexbear.net/c/movies

https://live.hexbear.net/c/music

https://live.hexbear.net/c/anime

Users will be required to make a username, in order to prevent impersonation of other users on hextube we are creating a verification system.

You may comment your Hextube username here or send it in a hexbear or matrix(secure) direct message to a moderator or admin.

Abuse of this system in any way will result in a ban from Hexbear and Hextube.

This also serves as a reminder that the Hexbear Code of Conduct must be followed on all Hexbear related services, and any conduct that receives a mod action there will receive on here.

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submitted 4 months ago by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/anime@hexbear.net

cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2338399

Hello, users of hexbear as of this post anonymous users will no longer be allowed on Hextube no will users be able to create channels, you may use this post to request additional channels. At the moment there is:

https://live.hexbear.net/c/movies

https://live.hexbear.net/c/music

https://live.hexbear.net/c/anime

Users will be required to make a username, in order to prevent impersonation of other users on hextube we are creating a verification system.

You may comment your Hextube username here or send it in a hexbear or matrix(secure) direct message to a moderator or admin.

Abuse of this system in any way will result in a ban from Hexbear and Hextube.

This also serves as a reminder that the Hexbear Code of Conduct must be followed on all Hexbear related services, and any conduct that receives a mod action there will receive on here.

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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/movies@hexbear.net

Hello, users of hexbear as of this post anonymous users will no longer be allowed on Hextube no will users be able to create channels, you may use this post to request additional channels. At the moment there is:

https://live.hexbear.net/c/movies

https://live.hexbear.net/c/music

https://live.hexbear.net/c/anime

Users will be required to make a username, in order to prevent impersonation of other users on hextube we are creating a verification system.

You may comment your Hextube username here or send it in a hexbear or matrix(secure) direct message to a moderator or admin.

Abuse of this system in any way will result in a ban from Hexbear and Hextube.

This also serves as a reminder that the Hexbear Code of Conduct must be followed on all Hexbear related services, and any conduct that receives a mod action there will receive on here.

You can contact any hextube mod or a hexbear mod of !movies@hexbear.net !anime@hexbear.net or !music@hexbear.net to reset a hextube password

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What is Hexbear? (hexbear.net)
submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/hexbear@hexbear.net

My answer:

When chapotraphouse was banned on reddit many mods and users came together to create a space on a link aggregator platform.

Choosing lemmy the original admin and developer team decided to fork it for various reasons. About a year ago, sustained effort was taken to upstream many of the forked features so that we could rebase with current version lemmy and federate.

Over the years hexbear has become a non-sectarian social media space for sharing news, memes, links, posts and comments with each other as the mods endeavour to make the space welcoming to marginalized people.

Terms of Service | Code of Conduct | Modlog | Allow-list | PPB

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/hexbear@hexbear.net

Please include a brief description of the nominated instance, why it should be removed from the allow-list or added to the block-list, and include a link to the instance. Off-topic comments will be removed.

If an instance is already nominated please do not create another top-level comment, reply to that other nomination with your comment and upvote to show your desire to defederate.

Multiple top-level comments for the same instance nomination will be removed

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submitted 1 year ago by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/hexbear@hexbear.net

Please include a brief description of the nominated instance, why it should be added to the allow-list, and include a link to the instance. Off-topic comments will be removed.

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submitted 1 year ago by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/theory@hexbear.net
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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/fashion@hexbear.net

https://inspo.cc/

Inspiration board

A quick preface: The point of this guide is to support users as they search for their style and start building their wardrobe. It’s not totally inclusive and won’t cover absolutely everything you’ll ever need to know as you build your own personal closet. It’s a starting guide.

Please also note that you won’t find any prescriptive information here. I’m not going to tell you to go out and buy a trench coat, black pumps, and a white button-up because you may never need those things. Women’s fashion is so incredibly diverse that it’d be impossible to lay out guidelines for all women. Instead, I will tell you how to figure out the staples for your wardrobe and how to lay out guidelines for yourself.

Finding a Style, Building a Wardrobe

Once you understand the basic elements of style - the central tenets of fit, silhouette, and colour coordination - it is not an uncommon to start desiring to cultivate a personal aesthetic. Whether you eventually find your satisfaction in the staid, tried-and-true preppy aesthetic or end up on the cutting-edge hopefully this guide will help you discover what makes you happy.

Fortunately, there's no reason to step blindly into the unknown on your quest for sartorial independence - there are numerous resources that can help you develop a knowledge of the huge variety of options out there and serve as sources of inspiration. A large part of developing your own aesthetic is building on what has come before, so leveraging these assets can only help to accelerate the process.

While they can't compete with the quantity of information available on the internet, one should not discount the value of books. For gaining a better understanding of how garments are created, learning the history of garments from the pantsuit to the high heel, or delving into fashion theory, get reading. Recommendations include Fashion Theory: A Reader and The Japanese Revolution in Paris Fashion. Finding Your Interests

The most difficult part of the whole process is determining what it is you're interested in - there's no shortage of choices, from the avant garde to the clasically chic, there's someone producing for every niche. Whether they be small, independent designers or corporate giants the quickest path to discovering them is via the internet.

To start your search think of a character from a TV show or movie whose style you particularly enjoyed. Search Polyvore for their name or the title of what they were in and (hopefully) it will turn up hundreds of sets of clothes that draw inspiration from that character's style, or provide exact lists of what they wore in a particular scence. Use these for styling ideas, but also take note of the brand names and stores that pop up repeatedly.

Next, turn to tumblr and start pumping those brand names into the search box. Click through to a few blogs and see if the first few posts appeal at all. If they do, follow them. It's much easier to cut down on feeds you don't enjoy later than spend hours trying to find one you wish you'd followed. Save all the images and posts that appeal to you in one form or another - I particularly enjoy using Pinterest for this, as it's easy to quickly scan through your archive at a later date and cull or categorise as you see fit. Once again, if you notice particular brands popping up over and over and it's not already on your list, write it down.

By now, you'll hopefully have a bevy of blogs to browse for inspiration, plenty of pinnned favourites, and a score or more of retailers to search for items of interest. With that information at your fingertips, it's time for the next stage: Trying and Buying

Once you've more or less identified the styles and aesthetics that appeal to you through extensive browsing, it is imperative to visit physical stores and try garments on in person. Try to find stockists that carry brands of interest and develop a feel for their sizing, how items can be combined, and start developing a relationship with a sales associate at stores you plan to frequent.

When experimenting with a new style, start off by purchasing inexpensive items - this does not mean be cheap, but frugal. For designer and high-end clothing, rather than buying new, check eBay for an item, and sell things that don't work out. On the lower end, or for trend items you don't see lasting more than a few seasons, stop in at H&M, Zara, or Topshop and pick up some pieces on the cheap. Their occasional designer collaborations, while not of a much higher quality than their typical offerings, can give you a chance to mix in novel concepts without breaking the bank. Thrifting and consignment shopping can also yield gold with frequent visits, especially for those residing in metropolitan or affluent areas.

Most importantly, don't decide on a style without having worn it for a while. Pick up a few outfits, mix and match, see how others react, and how you feel. If you come up with something that you love right away, that's great, but don't set it in stone until you research further and are certain it is the direction you wish to go in. Only then is it time to start investing heavily in a wardrobe. Going Further

Once you discover the message to convey through your garments, it's time to assess what items will add the most to your wardrobe and cement your aesthetic, a careful balancing act of versatility and self-satisfaction. It is not uncommon to find an item that immediately grabs your attention, but if it wouldn't mesh with your current wardrobe or work with two or three items at most, it's not a worthwhile purchase (for the time being). Unless you lack clothing mandatory for a particular activity, such as a job with a dress code or uniform, you do not need an item, and certainly not an expensive designer one. To put it more succinctly, wait to purchase until you find the perfect piece.

So what should you buy? Find the key pieces that will anchor a chosen identity to your person. For example, if you were interested in the classic preppy look and wanted to project the image of being vaguely sporty, nonchalantly put-together, and ultimately practical, a classic Barbour raincoat of indeterminate age might be a staple of your wardrobe. A gallery owner or curator on the other hand, may be far more attracted to the minimalism of designers such as Jil Sander and instead invest in sparsely detailed outerwear that reveals its provenance only to others of similar taste.

Once you have identified what impression it is your trying to send, shopping by brand starts to become a useful tool for filtering material of interest ouf of the rapidly evolving and ever changing fashion industry. Think of them as similar to the tags and categories assigned to posts on blogs - Gap might be associated with “plain”, “utilitarian”, “functional”, while Brooks Brothers might be “staid”, “traditional”, and “heritage”. Both our prep aficionado and modernist would pass over these, and instead search for ones described as "heritage", "classic", "pastel", or “refined”, “subtle”, and “minimal”. Either might come across a shirt that is atypical of a brand, say something from Versace that appeals to the futurist, and is an excellent addition to their wardrobe. They should not ignore it or skip purchasing, but it would still be a waste to follow each new collection because those items are so rare. Finding a boutique that tends to make buys matching your aesthetic is another discovery mechanism to consider. Many of these have blogs where buys and info about up-and-coming brands are posted and can be an excellent source of new finds.

At some point in your aesthetic journey your focus may begin to change, perhaps drifting from tarants and pastels to high fashion and the catwalks of Europe - whether due to a change in living situation or an evolution of taste, embrace it. Bill Cunningham, of NYTimes fame, calls fashion “the armour to survive the reality of everyday life.” If some change calls for different armour, so be it! Never let your style be constrained by how you might have dressed in the past.

Searching "capsule wardrobe" is a great way to have a minimal yet effective set of clothing.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/fashion@hexbear.net

https://malefashionadvice.substack.com/

If you have no idea how to dress and want a simple basic wardrobe guide / shopping list to get started, this post is for you.

Alternatively, for those of you who want to start traversing beyond the basics, I've included some baby steps that are perfectly safe to incorporate in almost any beginner's wardrobe, but offer a little bit more interest and creativity than the most basic of the basic.

Disclaimer: This guide is targeted toward more traditional clothing styles (essentially, a safe blend of workwear, Americana, and prep). It is not the only way to dress well! If these clothes simply don't appeal to you at all, that's totally okay

Tops

Plain crew-neck t-shirts in neutral colors - white and gray are most versatile, but other neutrals such as navy or beige, or simple patterns (e.g., stripes) can be nice.

Button-front shirts - oxford-cloth button-downs (OCBDs) in white and light blue, flannel/chamois shirts in plaids or solid neutrals

Baby steps: Try out graphic tees, OCBDs with university stripe patterns, chambray shirts, or a polo shirt (short sleeve or long sleeve). For cool weather, heavyweight shirts in twill, flannel, chamois, denim, or moleskin can keep you a bit warmer, while in warm weather, linen or seersucker shirts can keep you cool.

Avoid: Graphic tees with meme references, jokes, etc. These are inherently unfashionable.

Bottoms

Straight fit jeans in dark indigo, black, and/or medium wash

Straight fit chinos in tan (khaki), caramel, and/or olive

If you want to wear shorts, 7-9" chino shorts in khaki, olive, or navy

Baby steps: Try corduroy pants, cargo pants, linen pants, fatigues, or double knee pants. If you're interested in tucking in a shirt and wearing a layer on top, try looking for pants with higher rises (~11"+). If you're in a "sky's out, thighs out" mood, try getting a pair or two of short shorts with a ~5" inseam.

Avoid: Chinos with a synthetic flatness and luster. Avoid black chinos, which can look a little formal.

Mid-layers

Crew-neck sweater in gray, oatmeal, navy, mustard yellow, or maroon. Keep an eye out for brushed Shetland wool sweaters for some added texture.

Crew-neck sweatshirt or hoodie in gray

Baby steps: Consider an overshirt, cardigan, fair isle sweater, turtleneck sweater, or a chunky cable knit/Aran sweater.

Avoid: Anything too tight and slim. Sweaters and mid-layers are meant to have a bit more space to allow for layering underneath.

Outerwear (as needed for your specific climate)

Light jackets such as a trucker jackets in indigo/black denim or tan/olive cotton, chore coats in olive/brown, or field jackets in olive/brown/gray.

Raincoat in olive, gray, or black, although vibrant colors can work too.

Warm jacket such as an overcoat or parka in dark neutrals (gray/brown for overcoats, olive/gray/black for parkas).

Baby steps: There is a whole wide world of jackets out there, both light and heavy, so look into several different varieties to figure out what you like.

Avoid: Trying to skimp out on jackets if you live in a cold/rainy climate. Being too cold or getting soaked is miserable!

Shoes

Canvas or leather sneakers

Casual brown leather derbies and/or loafers, blucher mocs, or boots

Baby steps: Try chunkier athletic sneakers or chunky leather shoes if they appeal to you.

Avoid: Brown minimal sneakers and these sorts of hybrid dress sneaker abominations. Avoid cheap (or faux) leather, which degrades fast and wears in poorly. Avoid wearing shoes two days in a row - they need to air out between wears. Instead, rotate your pairs and use shoe trees to improve longevity.

Casual tailoring (optional, if needed for a job/event or if you like to wear it)

Navy Blazer

Wool trousers in various shades and textures of gray and/or brown

Baby steps: Try a sport coat with some texture or pattern, such as a brown houndstooth or gray tweed herringbone. Try a pocket square in a puff foldto accessorize with your blazer or sport coat.

Avoid: Wearing blazers or sport coats without getting them tailored. Make sure they're long enough and that they fit properly (not too slim, not too loose). Read this.

Semi-formal tailoring (optional, if needed for a job/event or if you like to wear it)

Navy or charcoal suit, tailored

White poplin dress shirt

Oxford dress shoes in black or brown

A belt that matches your shoes

Simple dark tie (e.g., burgundy grenadine)

Baby steps: Unfortunately, there's not much room to experiment with semi-formal or formal clothing. Your best bet is to stick to the basics unless you really know what you're doing.

Avoid: Black suits, unless you're specifically dressing for a funeral. In general, it's recommended to avoid wearing vests. Don't wear your oxford shoes with less formal outfits. Avoid dress shirts in black or saturated colors. It's generally best to avoid wearing a tie without a jacket or top layer. Avoid skinny ties - stick to ~2.75-3.5" (or 7-9 cm) width. For beginners, avoid bow ties unless 1) it's a black bow tie with a tuxedo (at a black tie event), or 2) you're dressing for prom (go crazy!) Finally, while monkstrap shoes had their moment, that moment has since passed. 

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/games@hexbear.net
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