My condolences and love to you, your husband and all of your friend's loved ones. I'm so sorry.

They'll pay for what they did.

Trans inclusive radical feminism, as in a trans terf, and yes they exist, yes it's fucked.

If it helps this could have been quoted from my journal like a year ago. Its hard, try to let yourself be guided by what feels right, I had a very hard time listening to myself, trusting myself, and even knowing how I felt. Its hard to parse genuine anxiety about things you don't want to do, and the anxiety about what other people will think or say to you if you do them.

Fucking sucks ass. I hate it. It takes up to a week for me and the whole time I look so gross.

Last time it was a small enough amount of hair I just epilated the whole thing took like 2 hours and many tears but felt so much better than waiting with the gross burnt hair on my face and having to go to work with it.

There's not much thay has grown back this time, especially since I have no shaved just epilated. Feels really nice. Its mostly super blonde/light hair left, which will probably need electrolysis.

I should say I use the term to mean something more than just the small baeddel groups that existed before. The rethoric is still alive and VERY spread out on tumblr, the old baeddel accounts are still around. Baeddelism the small movement might have been a niche overly online thing but the broader rethoric is still here, just more hidden now. Its gotten to the point where on tumblr if I see someone using the terms tme or tma I systematically check their other posts or who they repost, and almost every time I can find this baeddel or tirf stuff underneath. It made me very sad and anxious because you find it in very popular and well known accounts.

Terfs have found a way to remake arbitrary binaries and to use them for splitting the community more and more. Its a poison. You wouldn't believe the insane harassment and drama that transmasc accounts on tumblr, twitter, etc.. already went through.

I honestly think its a contributing factor to why there are less transmasc comrades here, because if you see a place that's not actively fighting against this rethoric its fair to assume its been spreading there unknowingly.

Very good that you looked into the original's sources and the weird terf shit, and yes the new one removes those. Its a weird fucking movement and rethoric and it disguises itself behind terms and concepts, and the whole time terfs and tirfs stir shit up and try to split communities further, its good to tread carefully.

I'm honestly convinced its mostly built and spread by terfs and tirfs in the background, its classic terf op, and at the same time they split the trans communities and encourage harassment or transmascs, enbies, intersex, etc.. comrades, they also have some other rethoric to try and reach them. They push transmascs away then whisper their terf "you see? They hate you!" Poison in their ears.

Seeing stuff like this and some of the discourse/responses around it reminds me that I should really do an effort-post about baeddelism and all the fucking "tma/tme" brainworms that emerge from this new kind of terf rethoric, a lot of it tends to (badly) quote serano and misuse the concept of transmisogyny. Its already destroyed large parts of transfem tumblr and is doing enormous harm to many transmasc and enby friends.

I'm extremely worried about this shit spreading here, I'm already seeing the milder variants of that rethoric spread.

(For context, a decent primer on the insidious reaction that is baeddelism : https://www.tumblr.com/nothorses/743139329546846208/lets-talk-about-baeddels)

I definitely think ace comrades (and aro comrades too!) should get a space or regular thread somewhere for themselves, to talk and share what they want to share.

I guess there needs to be a minimum amount of people/interest in it, but I think even if it's not many people here it should be an option.

Realistically speaking, who fucking cares?

A whole lot of people spilling ink about astrology, "pseudoscience" and "mysticism" in here that don't seem to know anything about it or its relation to the patriarchal, racial and class contradictions. And a whole lot of people that don't seem directly concerned with most of those things themselves but feel it's important to share their opinions on something they're not informed about and not concerned about.

For the record i don't care for astrology at all, I don't like the (extremely, extremely rare) people who take it 100% seriously, but it's still one of those things that's kinda fun sometimes. But i don't care, and i have no trust in people who are worried about "feminists hurting their own movement by doing things wrong" when they're not a part of that movement.

It's simply not your call or place to say something is "harmful to the movement" when you're not a part of it, you can't speak or know about it from experience. Saying stuff like that is a very easy way of getting dismissed entirely by basically every member of "the movement", as I am doing now, i truly do not care about the topic of astrology.

Maybe go talk to feminists that like astrology and calmly ask questions, and maybe ask yourself why you care so much about something of such little consequence for a movement that is, materially speaking, probably in contradiction with your own position and benefits in the current system and will naturally tend to be seen as uncomfortable to you.

i've dated very little but my current partner is enby, and my ex (for complicated personal reasons) left her country to move with someone else, cut all contact with her family, and a few years back completely dropped off the internet as well and people who knew her before she left the country have not heard about her at all, the guy she was with says she's fine but basically avoids giving any current details about her. Not in like an ominous way I think, but in a way that makes me think he's trying to avoid bringing up the past and deadnaming.

Soooo given my track record, and what I remember of them, I think it's very likely I should no longer gender my ex in the feminine.