No one should rely on tips, but they do. Refusing to tip now just hurts people , real people, immediately. You have to live in the world as it is while trying to improve it.
The bartender can't eat your idealism nor find shelter from the elements in it.
Your experiences are different. My friends who work for tips tell me they rely on that money. Losing those tips would have an immediate and real adverse impact on their health and safety.
Have you ever worked for tips or been a close friend of someone who did?
I accidentally made a rom-com subplot in one of my games... Twice... And the players loved it both times.
The first time there was a divorced smith lady who sort of had a death wish, and the timid tavern owner who had a massive crush on her. Of course the players wanted to set them up.
The second time, the players had to infiltrate a masquerade ball. Sadly I'm starting to forget the details. I think there was tension around meeting them while masked and, like a rom com, trying to figure out what they thought about the PC. And then they tried to get the NPC involved in their heist, because they just happened to have a skill they needed. And of course it wasn't a clean heist, and the NPC had some trauma.
Mergers and acquisitions should be a lot harder than they are. Maybe even prohibited in nearly all cases.
What constitutes a hobby?
I was encouraged from a young age to read books. I still do. I enjoy it. Are books a hobby?
My parents are both music fans. Had a big music collection, went to a lot of concerts. I'm the same. I enjoy it.
It's a short leap from books (eg: lotr) and some music (eg: some metal, some prog rock) to DND and similar games. It looked cool so I got into it.
Bikes are pretty ecologically friendly and the exercise is good. I've only dipped my toes into biking but it wouldn't be a big leap to buy my own bike, find s meetup, or whatever.
A friend of mine learned about weaving... somewhere. I don't know where actually. But they said "that looks cool' and looked into it. Now they weave and knit and such. Read about it online, watched some videos, signed up for a class.
A guy I know saw some photos online and went "that's cool. I could do that" and I think took a beginner class in it. Bought an entry level camera and just has fun taking pictures of stuff.
The common thread here is it's all stuff people enjoy.
Maybe delete more of your social media. That stuff is bad for you. A friend of mine started tracking how much time they spent on it, and realized it was like 4 hours a day doing nothing on Instagram. It's mostly trash. You don't need it.
Some guys at work are getting into chess. Not sure where it started but now they're playing and reading about strategy and stuff.
Don't beat yourself up over being bad at things.
Those people aren't a good match for you (or maybe anyone).
Meanwhile Canada is removing bike lanes for more car support, and the US elected a deeply anti-environment party.
My work uses python and it hasn't been bad for new code that has tests and types. Old code we inherited from contractors and "yolo startup" types is less good, but we've generally be improving that as we touch it.
Their first pathfinder game was so excruciatingly guide dang it I never finished it, and never even considered this game. I kind of assumed it was the same way, where there's stuff like "Ah, you didn't return to this unmarked forest on day 7, so now you never get a wizard"
Oh, now I remember having an argument on here with some asshole who insisted I just have "fomo" over this. Sign posting and foreshadowing are only to appease fomo, I guess.
As I said at the root of this thread, my ire is mostly reserved for rich people who refuse to tip. If you're struggling, you have to make your own decisions and compromises to get by. But the guy who makes more money from interest than the bartender makes all night, when they don't tip they're an asshole.
The problem you're describing, that people aren't paid enough and CEOs are too rich, is a very real problem.