Came here to say this, but shorter. Imagine my surprise to see "Positivity" first word in the top comment. I know we don't all agree on everything, but the vibe on Lemmy (for me at least) seems to be share our views or shut up.
The other thing is how political everything seems to get. Even outside of political communities you see it seaping into the comments. I might be remembering wrong, but reddit didn't seem to have that issue (as much). If you weren't in a politically orriented community the mods kept that kinda talk out.
All that being said, I'm sticking with Lemmy. I don't hace any desire to go back to reddit even as a lurker. I hope lemmy gets nicer as more people join. I've embraced being downvoted. I will try to love communism and linux to a greater degree than I already do.
Welcome to Lemmy. I get where you're coming from. I run a business and I have had to ask straight and gay couples to tone down their PDA. Sometimes they respond poorly and I have had them downplay what they were doing as if I wasn't just watching it... Unfortunately letting that kind of thing slide negatively impacts how other customer view my business. I can't have people groping each other when a family walks in.
To the point of the people not comprehending the full scope of what you're saying, obviously this situation got violent and that's uncalled for. Straight or gay violence isn't the answer.