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I guess what I was trying to say is that I am not willing to take up the risk of self-hosting my code or expend the effort to make sure this is well functioning and safe.

I agree, I am not sure if I am ready to make the move myself, but I have ADHD and this post may be just the motivation I need. I am using GitHub as glorified private git server, so the move shouldn't be too difficult. Any recommendations are welcome (thinking of codeberg at the moment)!

Aside from price, I have aspirations of open sourcing stuff this year so some issue tracking and CI/CD features would be appreciated (thought not necessary).

Edit: It seems codeberg is non-commercial, but there is a host for forgejo that seems interesting (https://gna.org/).

(I started a rant about self hosting, then realized it's completely irrelevant but I had already written it, so continue at your own risk)

IMO self hosting is not an option unless you are a sysadmin or somehow have a tonne of relevant experience.

I used to self-host GitLab, one weekend after about a month of being off my hobby projects I tried to login and the service wasn't available. At first, I panicked, I didn't know when my last backup was, but it was a while. In the end, my host was performing scheduled maintenance and a few hours after GitLab was running again, but that incident was enough to scare me away from ever self-hosting anything valuable ever again.

It's been a moment since I took the monotropism questionnaire, but I scored in the 200s.

The title makes me think that you discovered the monotropism questionnaire from the relevant video from "I am autistic, now what?". In case you haven't watched the video, maybe it's a good intro.

Other than that, I am myself trying to answer the same question. For me learning about autism has helped a lot. There have been a lot of moments of "doesn't everybody do that?" and "oh, that's why!".

If there are problems that lead to you taking the questionnaire, maybe it's worth seeking guidance from a professional. Though, sometimes it's hard to get proper help.

Regardless, if the result is true or not, it's worth it to take a look at your day to day life, see how monotropism is affecting you and if you can make any changes that would help. For example, at some point I realized one of the reasons I was avoiding hanging the laundry out to dry is that I hate touching wet fabrics, and mentally preparing myself for it made it a lot more bearable (still icky though).

yes! I mean pathological demand avoidance, I literally forgot there is another meaning to the acronym 🤣

The secret code has been found! Everyone spread the message!

It's like it was hit by a train!

Florida Man: Challenge accepted! It's going to be legendary!!!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streisand_effect

The Streisand effect is an unintended consequence of attempts to hide, remove, or censor information, where the effort instead backfires by increasing awareness of that information. It is named after American singer and actress Barbra Streisand, whose attempt to suppress the California Coastal Records Project's photograph of her cliff-top residence in Malibu, California, taken to document California coastal erosion, inadvertently drew greater attention to the photograph in 2003.

(I needed a lesson myself)

While I cannot think of a better decentralization example, the lack of source code makes me worry this solution would not satisfy the open source software (OSS) criteria.

Not true, I could set up a WordPress blog and start writing reviews. As long as it stays a niche thing I share with a couple of friends online, that "review platform" won't be gamed or flooded by fake reviews.

My point being that closed "publishing" instances can be reliable.

I feel you. There would be times when I would prefer ordering a delivery to serving a plate of food I have already cooked.

Been struggling with eating disorder for the past few years, and the last year I have been trying (without success) to keep a healthy diet. Ordering delivery online is the biggest issue for me.

Buying groceries that I know I am going to throw has helped a lot. The shame of throwing rotten veggies has motivated me many a time to start cooking whatever is left before it's rotten, I view it as trigger to cook. Also, not having groceries can be a barrier to cooking.

I have trouble accounting for all the effort required to prepare a dish. Tasks like washing the dishes, buying groceries, cutting vegetable, etc take time and energy. If I don't plan for those, I will get tired at some point and completely give up cooking.

When everything seems too hard, I try to do something small. Usually, this is washing a couple of spoons or glasses. Sometimes this is enough to trigger my fixation and get buttload of work done. Because, this is not consistent my trick is doing often with zero expectations so I don't get discouraged.

Now, I am trying to constantly build excitement for cooking. It's a new experiment, but the idea is that if I have triggers around me that will remind me I want to cook, it make it easier for me to cook. I have installed a mirror on my living room (I don't like my shape right now, and that feels motivating somehow), and next I will pick some posters to hang around the house.

Thanks for the question, I hope I am able help even the tiniest bit.

omg, I am terrified of this happening to me. I have been looking for a specialist since March. It's so fucking hard to trust someone when most people are pretty much ignorant of ADHD.