I don't talk about it much but I was a late bloomer and didn't sleep with someone until I was 25 and I haven't been (outside of a few dates) with anyone since and I'm well over 30. This was a good read. I often beat myself up that technically I'm an incel, even though I'm not interested in seeing anyone or wanting sex.

[–] ThermonuclearEgg@hexbear.net 22 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

even though I'm not interested in seeing anyone or wanting sex.

Wouldn't that be volcel, and thus not incel, if you aren't interested?

It's perfectly fine to not want it, the asexual community calls out this societal standard as "compulsory sexuality"

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 13 points 8 hours ago (3 children)

It's perfectly fine to not want it, the asexual community calls out this societal standard as "compulsory sexuality"

Interesting. I wonder where getting off though fits in with the whole volcel asexual community as I still do that.

[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 17 points 7 hours ago

Asexuality is about attraction, not about libido. Some ace people get themselves off regularly. Some don’t. There’s a lot of reasons to engage in sexual activity other than sexual attraction.

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 11 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

to my understanding masturbation is still relatively common amongst asexual people

e: the consequences of never refreshing before posting

[–] glans@hexbear.net 13 points 7 hours ago

as i understand asexuality they don't find any inherent contradiction there.