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Everybody dying in my family. I'm sick of going to funerals and pretending to be sad or something. I'm not. Death is part of life. Fucking masquerade.
Ah fuck off, it's sad if someone you love can no longer be a part of your life.
Fuck western funerals. Dying of old age in the west isn't sad, it's the ultimate conclusion to that person's story and should be celebrated. Edit: I mean celebrate their life not their death.
~~But, the funeral industry gotta sell you a shitty coffin, sell you a shitty service. Shitty people gotta show off how sad they are.~~ Edit: being an edgy arsehole isn't cool. Grieve how you want, not how someone else thinks you should, including me.
I was sad when my dear grandpa died. He was like a (second) father to me. He taught me many things and was the sweetest man in the world, with more love in his heart than he knew what to do with. He was a great father, a great husband, and he grew up from nothing, fatherless himself, yet turned himself into an exemplary human being and man. A role model if you will.
Definitely wept at his funeral, because I missed him dearly already. Your situation not being similar doesn't mean I have to pretend not to be sad. That's bullshit.
In the light of another day, that was uncool of me.
Everyone is right to grieve their own way.
Thank you for that. You're a good person.
Much love. ❤️ Take care in 2024!
Sound like my grandpa too. How fortunate we were to have them.
We really were. I try to be like him towards my kids, but I'm nowhere near as kind and loving, and I'm pretty kind and loving.
Take care! ❤️🫂
I'm sure you are doing a great job. Ive no kids but likewise I have a shining example to guide me. Thanks , you too. Wishing you and your family health and happiness in the new year and the years to come ❤️
It's only sad if they are under 50. RIP mom.
Same boat here. RIP.
Ah Jesus how high mighty do you have to be to be above grieving losing a loved one. Funerals are a celebration of someone's life, it's like one of the opening lines of every funeral I've been to.
It doesn't matter the age, if the person was important to you their absence can impact you emotionally.
Get yourself checked.
Check your reading comprehension and try again.
That someone completed their full life is a cause for celebrating their life, not grieving their death.
Lamenting someone's early death is also appropriate.
Having had a number of experience of both... I'm fine.
How high and mighty doyou have to be?
That says enough for me, however you defend it being sad at the loss of someone you cared about is justifiable and not shitty regardless of their age...or being in "the west"
In the light of another day, that was uncool of me.
Everyone is right to grieve their own way.
Fair enough, I appreciate you not becoming entrenched in your position.
God yes. I was a bit of an accident in my family and have a slew of aunts, uncles and cousins who are all 60-90 now. It’s been an interesting past couple of years and I am not looking forward to the next few.