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If you just assume that everything you put online is being saved and used by everyone and everything you'd be better off.
This used to be the default when I was a kid. Never give out your real name. Never give out personal information. Don't post pictures or videos of yourself or anyone you know or that contain identifying info like addresses, landmarks or anything else that might make it easier for someone to figure out where/who you are.
All the data you send to Lemmy can be viewed by just about anyone. Including your votes. Deleting something doesn't necessarily get rid of every instance of your content across the whole fediverse or anything that's scraping data (including other users who just have a habit of saving every single thing). If you have an app that lets you share content and you find a "deleted by creator" post, you can even copy the post body and paste it elsewhere to see what it said prior to the deletion.
Always assume everything you put anywhere on the internet is going to be saved somewhere whether you want it to or not.
It's wild to me how many people have forgotten or refuse to follow basic Internet safety. People complain about privacy and then attach things to their real name. Stop that. Make up a name and use that one instead. No, don't put your birth year in your email address. You think using a reversed version of your mother's maiden name is real clever but it really isn't. Stop that.
The infuriating issue I'm dealing with lately is the crossover between IRL and internet friends. They refuse to stop naming when typing or speaking. I don't care that they know who I am, but there's a reason that I want my nickname being used when we're in a discord server and random fucking people join in. It's even worse on forums. You go to one meetup and suddenly someone wants to make a post saying, "it was great to meet X, Y, Z, AA, AB, AC, AD, AE, AF...." using the names of the people instead of their aliases, or worse using both. And of course they took a picture.
I blame facebook. It introduced and reinforced the concept of name=person=online to everyone.
Happens to me as well with meetup. I am in a bunch of atheist meetups and most people who go do not want their name or photo associated with it.
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