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What I mean is wishing someone a happy _____ is a courtesy we do for each other. I dont consider it something anybody is entitled to or to throw a huge fit if someone doesn't fall in line or reaches out "too late" or whatever. Its never an excuse to be a Bridezilla and people who want to act like that, I simply don't want to be around. Its a very useful heuristic honestly.
We've never had this issue. He wished on mine, I wished on his. End of story. It just happens to be useful because he always has done so which means its a useful indication for what the situation is. If he doesn't reach out, thats the first time ever so thwt tells me this isn't likely a fluke but that he blocked me, he means for me to not be able to contact him, and I have one less birthday + fake friend to need to attend to. Its honestly just as well, I don't want flaky people like that who can't even let you know how they feel and give everyone closure.