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submitted 7 months ago by blakeus12@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

i'll start. i saw a ask reddit post saying something along the lines of "men of reddit whats something women can't understand" and the comments were just. oh my god. the main one that made me want to puke was "when dudes walk by each other and nod" and the whole fucking thread was just fedoras with arms soypogging like it was some secret language or something. "when you nod upwards, it means respect!!!!!1!!11 when you nod downwards its aggression!!!1!11!!!!!" as if women dont do the same shit.

do you guys have something similar to share?

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[-] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 49 points 7 months ago

I'm gonna be honest, as an autistic transfem the "bro nod" shit really fucks with me because I'm like "am I demonstrating my male socialization right now or is this normal"

[-] TawnyFroggy@hexbear.net 28 points 7 months ago

New type of dysphoria unlocked

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 19 points 7 months ago

I've decided to just own it, I don't even care anymore. I nod at the dudes and wave to the gals.

I did not know before today that directional nods have different meanings; I have been acting hyperaggressive on the sly towards dudes for years. Their masculinity in shambles.

[-] rootsbreadandmakka@hexbear.net 15 points 7 months ago

nah reddit just has no idea what they're talking about. A downward nod is like respect and acknowledgement of the other person, usually towards a stranger. Upward nod is friendlier, usually towards a friend. Downward nod is also friendly, it's just a bit more aloof, like there's more separation between the two people. An upward nod conveys a sense of closeness.

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 10 points 7 months ago

MANY CONFLICTING DEFINITIONS OF THE DUDE NOD

I have now concluded from the Brotherhood of Nod that dudes, in fact, do not rock. Not if this is the kind of bs they engage in :)

[-] Egon@hexbear.net 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Upward nod can also be aggressive. There's no significance in the direction of a nod, there's no way to do nod-phrenology

[-] rootsbreadandmakka@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago
[-] Egon@hexbear.net 3 points 7 months ago

Look if you've never gotten the "would you like to engage in fisticuffs"-nod, then you are not allowed to speak on nodologics

[-] Egon@hexbear.net 4 points 7 months ago

Directional nods do not have different meanings, redditors are the kind of people that watch a movie and take it as gospel. The nod-talk is probably from something like "office space" and now they just believe it

[-] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 11 points 7 months ago
[-] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 13 points 7 months ago

Basically it's the idea that men greet people (particularly other men) with a slight nod. This is often expanded into an idea of a sort of "nod language" particular to men, where an upwards vs downwards vs left vs right nod have different meanings.

[-] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 11 points 7 months ago

Oh yeah I do that all the time 😂 never really thought about it

[-] HumanBehaviorByBjork@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

there's something about the internet that encourages people to catalog and obsess over tiny social cues

[-] Egon@hexbear.net 9 points 7 months ago

Everybody nods, redditors do this weird thing where they make a universal thing a male thing, because they don't know any women.

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