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I know lots of people who aren't depressed.
We also understand a lot more about mental health than we used to, including the fact that mental health challenges are not as unusual as they were once thought to be. Growing up in the 90's and early 2000's, I was just a "lazy", "unmotivated", and "inattentive" kid. You know, a "space cadet." I now know that I have ADHD. I have also struggled with depression since childhood. Depression, anxiety, and emotional disregularion are often comorbidities with or symptoms of ADHD. Getting a diagnosis and on proper medication was life changing for me.
But, lack of happiness is not the same as depression. I think sometimes people get those confused. You can be unhappy without being depressed. I would say that there's a whole lot more unhappy people in the world than depressed people. I also think people often look for joy in the wrong places and expect that "stuff" is going to make them happy. It works. For a bit. But that kind of happiness quickly vaporizes and leaves you feeling as empty as you felt before.
Real happiness comes from a sense of fulfillment. That looks different to different people. I feel happiest when I feel like I'm "grounded". When I get time to shake off all the responsibilities and BS that gets piled on my plate. Sometimes that's when I'm kneeling in church on a Sunday morning or taking time out of my relentless schedule to play with my kids. Or when I can get my wife to go for a walk with me. Especially when I can do something that makes someone else's day a little brighter.
It took a lot of searching to find the things that bring me joy. And the only way to really know if something will is to experience it. Life is hard. On some level there's just no way around that. But it can also be good. Personally, I've had a LOT of hard days. But I've had a lot of good days too. For me it makes the hard days worth it.