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I sometimes think about how other people have less happy relationships than mine, and that makes me sad for them
We're about to celebrate our 17th anniversary and we've been together over 20. I am more in love today than I was when we first started dating. She's the most wonderful person I know and I love sharing my life with her.
Got a partner who pays half the bills, does half the laundry, cooks half the food, washes half the dishes. Even without sex, it's an absolute win.
But you consume twice as much food, have twice as much laundry, and so on.
But it's simpler. Cause it's not hard to have to do more laundry. It's the initial actions that are a problem. Cause it takes me the same amount of time to load the detergent and other stuff. Plus it's the mental burden of having many things to take care of. With two, it's the same amount of things even though each thing is bigger, but it's easier to take care of and split.
Economies of scale
Plus specialization
My husband does all the dishes and I do all the laundry. Itβs an absolute win for both of us.
Yeah but then zero of many things.
I may do double dishes. But zero baking and I'm rewarded with cookies randomly.
I may do double cleaning. But zero when it comes to buying gifts and cards for people, because she loves doing that. And I get to reap all the benefits.
Absolutely this. I suck at cooking but my wife is great at it. She hates doing dishes but I really donβt mind.
That's because I'm getting fat because I only have to do half the work I did before.
I know, right!?
I'm pretty introverted, and one thing I found surprising is that time with my wife counts as "alone time" for that =)
She charges your battery - that's so sweet. π
Same!
One of my fears dating was that id run out of social energy and she'd realize i was really boring. A few years in our relationship, I told her. And she said she thought SHE was boring me, because she never had anything to really say.
Now it's been more than a decade and there's no social battery being drained with her, and vice versa. We charge each other up!
I can't imagine living with one person who likes me, let alone 2 (or more I guess, though poly isn't my cup of tea)
you don't need to get married for that
Exactly, I had a cat for years before getting married
heheh
Or just live together without getting your official government approval certificate
In the US at least:
What if they get seriously injured? How will you have rights about their care? To go and see them? What if you have great insurance, but they don't?
Marriage has tons of benefits over being unmarried, right or wrong. Plus, I enjoyed getting married. I also enjoy being married. Life is hard. My wife always has my back.
Why can't you get similar right via other certificates?
Ask the legislature. Some of those you can get other ways, but not all of them. Getting married does them all.
More recent generations have much better emotional intelligence than previous ones. We're consistently getting better at things like communication and being aware of our own feelings, which makes marriage a lot better.
I always heard growing up that once you stop fighting, the marriage is in trouble. Which, frankly, is bullshit. The marriage is in trouble when you stop communicating, but that doesn't mean you have to constantly fight. It's possible to work out differences before they build up and explode.
It's still difficult at times, but yeah, marriage is rad if you both commit to being great communicators.
I remember hearing all the boomer "take my wife...please! Ole ball and chain" jokes growing up. I fuckin love my husband. I love being married. I feel bad for people who think resenting their spouse is the default. I get to touch butt pretty much whenever I want.
My partner and I both say that weβre better than being alone. And we both LOVE being alone.
I love being alone together with my wife
I told some of my single friends I needed some alone time, and my wife joined me. And they said, "I thought you needed alone time".
And I didn't know how to explain that to them.
My partner will sit and read quietly in the room while I'm playing games and not interact with each other and it's the fucking best.
Same but with check-ins every 15-30 minutes. Usually a "whatcha doin" or a surprise hug or kiss.
Could have done this much cheaper with a dog.
Dogs rarely have jobs with an income or are able to make you tea when sick.
You can't fuck a dog though
The sublime difference between "can't" and "shouldn't".
Not with that attitude
Probably because bc let's you marry who you want instead of an obligation due to being too aroused one time.