Unfortunate that you had to do that, but it sounds to me like you make the right call. Keep being great ππ€π©΅
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Of course it had to be feddit.uk
They don't call it TERF Island for nothing.
ofc itβs us, I wanna move to the netherlands π³π±πͺπΊπ³οΈββ§οΈ
What's "adult human female" referring to? Asking so I can keep an eye out for this in the future
Adult human female is a dog whistle used by TERFs (and transphobes more broadly) to make it clear that they are specifically excluding trans women from the definition of womanhood; that is, itβs shorthand for saying that βadult human femalesβ are the only category of person that can be called a woman.
As a Brit myself, it saddens me how much hate is leeching from my country - especially towards minorities.
Thank you to the mods for making this community open so that people like me can lurk and learn to be better, while simultaneously protecting the people who depend on and need this safe space. Defederating was the right choice.
I wonβt pretend Iβm well versed in trans issues and struggles - Iβm a cishet guy with no real skin in the game but I want to be an ally.
If anyone has good resources for someone like me to read so I can be better armed to refute and educate others who are being hateful, please let me know. The surge in hate after the recent Supreme Court ruling here in the UK has made it painfully clear being passive on the sidelines isnβt acceptable.
Huge apologies in advance if Iβve phrased anything hurtfully. I just want to learn.
As a Brit myself, it saddens me how much hate is leeching from my country - especially towards minorities.
As an American, I understand.
If anyone has good resources for someone like me to read so I can be better armed to refute and educate others who are being hateful, please let me know.
I've had "trans bodies, trans selves" recommended to me for this several times, so I went and bought it. It's a whopper of a book though, 700 pages, but it gives an amazing background and insight for cis people (like me).
Thank you for the recommendation!
Delusions of Gender and Testosterone Rex are excellent books not exactly about trans issues but go into how much bullshit is spread that is unscientific about gender and hormones etc.
Thank you for the recommendation!
Sure, we are happy to help!
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Thanks for the explanation
To someone who doesnβt know any better, "adult human femaleβ sounds so innocuous. If the rest of the post or comment was carefully phrased, it probably would have gotten past me. Thank you for the clarification.
and that's the true story of why they're called dog whistles
Does it sound innocuous? Who talks like that unless they're trying to say something very specific?
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And sorry, what is a terf? By context i assumed it's a transphobe, but you also include transports.
No need to apologize for genuine questions! TERF stands for trans-exclusionary radical feminist. Itβs a very, very specific subtype of transphobe that started using the phrase as a dog whistle, and it eventually leaked out into the broader transphobe sphere. All TERFs are transphobes, but not all transphobes are TERFs.
I appreciate the response. Canadian, so apologizing is how we start conversations.
The best part about it IMO is that they're the ones who started calling themselves that, but once it gained a negative reputation (for obvious reasons), they started claiming that it's a slur.
T ransgender
E xclusionary
R adical
F eminist
So, somebody who thinks they're doing good for women, or espouses the image.... But ultimately, is not and excludes trans people from their push for rights. Often, their "rights" are exclusively just anti-trans sentiment or push for legislature.
So a terf may be somebody who wants feminism, but not for trans women; or also like those people who claim to protect women's sports by just excluding trans women from it. Those people are most often just tradwives or straight up misogynists.
It's popular transphobic/conservative rhetoric. That's it. It's vague and a dog whistle.
A dog whistle is a euphemism for saying one thing that only your base clearly hears, like a literal dog whistle and how only dogs hear it because human hearing is like 20hz-20,000hz, and dogs go up to like 70,000 or 100,000hz or something.
It's just a super shitty behavior in general, akin to passive aggression, in that it's purely destructive with no constructive recourse, thus Ada's swift decision and response (thanks Ada).
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I approve. Good work.
That's fair.
People like that will say "just block them" with one fork of their tongue, and then "sort it out through discussion and voting" with the other fork.
People like that will say "just block them" with one fork of their tongue,
Aka: "i just supply the space, I have no responsibility to make sure it's actually safe"
"sort it out through discussion and voting"
Aka: "and I don't intend to protect anyone, not my problem if you're getting attacked".
i was subscribed to a few communties there, might create a account there or a federated instance for those.
Thanks Ada!
I hope the feddit.uk admins reconsider their approach to moderating transphobia, but in the mean time I appreciate your protective stance. π
Non-blahaj user weighing in
Well done πππ
Thank you for your hard work on making blahaj a great place for everyone!
It's a shame that that's their stance as I post on communities there fairly often and at least some of the mods have outwardly come to defend trans people in the comments of my posts before. That said, I understand the decision.
Funny, I already had feddit.uk instance blocked so this is nice, lol.
Sounds like the right move. Thank you.
thank you mods
Thank you for facilitating a safe place and for the transparency
Blahaj admins try not to be based challenge (impossible)
What response from an instance admin on this situation would have been expected/acceptable?