I've met many internet strangers before, and I've never had an experience like that bbefore. That said, I also generally meet strangers in public places, so nothing happens.

Good rule of thumb for any meeting where you might end up in a non-public space.

If you're just doing a buy/sell thing, you can count on doing the entire exchange in a public space. If you're meeting someone for a date, you might end up in a more secluded setting. It doesn't happen as much around where I live, but I've read stories of it happening in other parts of the world

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Seriously. Post a pic of some Air Jordans on Craigslist, you'll get the victims.

Its seems you already killed them in conversation how else would they ghost you /joke

Came here to say the same thing as a gay man.

I hope you sighed deeply and then said "well, guess I have to murder your friend now too".

so, did you?

Honestly be way better to take a picture of the vehicle plate, then she doesn't even have to make you aware of it, and the plate is in a database, unlike your face. On top of that, she can use a police procedure that exists for making vehicle stops: touch the side of your car with a bare hand, leaving prints on the finish for forensics.

Or, IDK, maybe she did all of the above

Edit: Now that I think about it, making you aware of it might actually be part of the plan. If you were going to murder her, you might just cut the date off early instead, saving her some time and a murder

How did they make sure you were not a murderer though? You didn't murder her instantly in the restaurant in front of them and tjat was good enough for them.

Well, the phone isn't

That's very comforting until it's not.

What if that's where they go to get freaky though?

I always pass them and greet them politely, it's an immediate tension relief

i mean if you really want to ameliorate that - Stop and tie your shoelace, or adjust your sock like it's slipped into your shoe or something.

Then look around to get your bearings and pause for a minute. Check your phone or something.

This is assuming you are also keeping yourself safe and such activities won't inspire a mugging of your own personage.

I work in retail and I find myself constantly ending up going in the same direction of a customer

After like less then a minute of seemingly following a person I just straight up stop for a bit or turn around

If you pass along the profile screenshot, the police could reach out to Bumble for the details. Dating apps have an incentive to boot bad users off their platform, and a murder-y one would be bad for business

It's partly fatalistic humor, partly practical. There is risk in the situation to everyone involved, but it's way higher for women. You inform people of the circumstances of the date to increase your safety.

Letting someone else know your whereabouts is good defensive thinking. Wrapping the real need to do it in humor is a way to remove some of the sting from the truth of why youre doing it.

Not true. It's a risk analysis. The risk may be high, but some women still think the potential benefit is worth it.

It's why so many people still play the lottery.

I personally don't know any women who have ever gone to someone's house to purchase something. You meet in a well lit public place during the day, just like any sane person. Women do face threats to their health and safety when going out with strange men. It seems you're under the impression that murder is what we are trying to avoid when it's much much more common that women are raped and/or drugged on dates. Although avoiding murder is also a top priority but that's a given for literally everyone on the planet.