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So there is a hardline being 18 But most people take it too literal and are like what moral difference does it make if I fuck a 17. 5Yr old and an 18 Yr old

But that misses the point If you are old enough where fucking a 17 Yr old is weird then fucking an 18 Yr old is really fucking weird too

The legal line had to be drawn somewhere but a 28 Yr old should be nowhere near college kids except maybe seniors or sth

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[–] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It should only be legal to have sex with people older than you.

[–] TrashGoblin@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago
[–] chickentendrils@hexbear.net 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There has to be a lower bound, but above that it's just a number and case-by-case to me. I've known 56 year olds more immature than some 18 year olds.

I'm about 30, I've been in relations with 3, 13, and 31 year age gaps, myself always being the younger party. Being on the other side of all those I personally don't think I can generalize any other rules for other couples. Just some minimum for protecting vulnerable people.

100% agree. Honestly I couldn’t imagine sleeping with an 18 year old when I was 22 and graduating college. I certainly couldn’t imagine it now. I don’t even really want to be around 18 year olds for an extended period of time.

[–] DirtyPair@hexbear.net 17 points 1 year ago

power dynamics.

[–] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

what moral difference does it make if I fuck a 17. 5Yr old and an 18 Yr old

If you're like 19-20 and it's because you've been dating since high school then nobody gives a shit, there's literally even legal exceptions for this

But yeah if you're old enough that 17.5 is weird then so is 18, fuck off and go meet people your own age

Age of consent isn't a sharp line. A lot of places have (very complex) Romeo and Juliet laws that provide exceptions.

Power dynamics.

[–] regularassbitch@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

Power dynamics.

[–] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

I knew a 35 year old who dated and married a 23 year old. He’s autistic with adhd and physically looks younger than her so nobody really finds anything wrong with it.

The autism and adhd make him seem mentally younger as well with his childlike personality and maturity levels being lower for his age.

Of course, Guatemala is an entirely different world and age gaps relationships are pretty common and not as widely frowned upon as they are in the US. There’s definitely men who use it for the power dynamics and it’s part of the class divide with it being more common among poorer communities than the wealthier ones.

[–] Procapra@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

I'm 24 currently, I probably wouldn't date someone who can't drink. Bars for me are the place I can go and officially feel adult, idk if thats how other americans feel, but thats how I feel.

In the last 2 years I've been with folks who are 20+ years older than me. It was a lot less weird than thinking about being with someone too young to go out and drink despite those people technically being closer to my age.

[–] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 3 points 11 months ago

Codify the 1/2 age + 7 guideline into a Romeo and Juliet law if any minors are involved, and leave two adults to their own business.

14 can bang 14. 16 can bang 15. 18 can bang 16. 20 can bang 17.

[–] D61@hexbear.net 1 points 11 months ago

On one side, for whatever reason, you'll have people debating the semantics of the age of consent rule.

On the other side, you'll have people defending the spirit behind an age of consent rule.

So... its probably just two people talking past each other for most of the conversation.

[–] Deinonychus@hexbear.net 0 points 11 months ago

Power dynamics.