Social interaction. It would be nice to not just be so exhausted talking to people. It would be nice to not dread the idea of sending someone a text, like it's some insane mental effort and not the smallest thing. It would be nice to not be lonely but totally unwilling to do what it takes to correct it.
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I'm totally the same. Last night a coworker text me to let me know they would be back in the office tomorrow after taking a couple days off. It took me almost 10 minutes to come up with "ok, see you tomorrow then". I rewrote that text at least a dozen times. Why the hell is something so simple a monumental effort for me?
The key difference between introverts and extroverts is that for introverts social interactions drain our mental energy while extroverts are energized by interactions.
One key thing to remember here is introvert/extrovert isn't about the level of shyness or anxiety though. You could be an extremely outgoing introvert or a shy extrovert. It truly is only about the relationship between your mental energy and social interaction. The comment above sounds more like social anxiety than introversion, though could be both.
Running. It's the cheapest, easiest form of exercise, but it absolutely bores me to death and i just can't deal with it after 5 minutes.
I don't mind most other forms of exercise, it's just that they all require more time, effort or resources. Going to the gym requires a gym membership, basketball requires friends, etc.
Socializing. There are lots of benefits to being connected, but I just can't stand people. People are the worst, and yeah, that includes me.
Cilantro. Fucking soapy-assed tasting bullshit. I want to like you, but genetics won't let me.
Never got a soapy taste from cilantro, but as a kid, a suicidal stink bug landed on a PB&J I was eating.
At first I was pissed off at my brother, cuz that bastard put cilantro on a fucking PB&J!!! I spit the bite out. Wad of partially chewed sandwich, mixed with insect legs and broken shell lands on my plate: no cilantro. Brother is now looking up at me with a genuine expression of concern: not a prank.
Lesson 1: look before you bite.
Lesson 2: Stink bugs taste exactly like cilantro.
Lesson 3: ...cilantro tastes exactly like stink bugs.
The tiniest little flek of that shit can ruin an otherwise delicious bite of food.
Embarrassment humor. It's always sunny. How I met your mother. Arrested development. I think you should leave. I can't stand cringe.
I'm the same way. It usually makes me uncomfortable and I don't want to watch it.
Something similar with reality TV. I start to get irritated. I know the situations are fabricated and edited but it gets me worked up and I hate it.
The sound of dogs barking. If I liked that, I‘d be so happy every single day. I‘d wake up and go to sleep to a sound I enjoy. As it is, I will have to move and rent is even more expensive now, just depressing.
I adore dogs but no one really loves dogs barking. Even dogs with a relatively discrete or non-annoying bark pitch will tire any ear if they go into a barking ceremony.
Seafood. So many people love it, so many cultures' cuisine centers around it, but OMFG I can't stand the taste.
Bananas.
Healthy ✔️ Comes in its own container ✔️ Tasty ✔️
I try one every year thinking this will be my year.
Unfortunately the texture kills me
Programming. I have a bunch of ideas that are actually useful for my job, but I can’t seem to keep track of the necessary steps to write the code. ChatGPT has helped me create a couple of programs: a discord bot and a very complex (for me) application that brings in NASA data that automatically runs through Stable Diffusion. The code interpreter is amazing… but there’s too much context I’m missing for these things to be truly fun the way I imagine them to be.
Social connection. It would be nice if I could be confident and good at making friends with strangers. I have no idea why I feel so lonely when in the crowd and even more lonely when I'm alone.
Getting up early. Ideally even exercising before breakfast.
Career growth. Works keeps telling me for years about how they want to promote me into a new role, but I keep turning them down. Like bruh yeah it's more pay but it's more hours ya know.
I'd rather finish work 5pm everyday then stay back till 8pm for a few grand more which is even worse after tax.
That's completely normal, and a large portion of people here in Europe would do the same as you do. There is this saying where "people in North America life to work, people in Europe work to life". Because who cares if you make more money if you barely have the time to actually enjoy it?
Not trying to say one continent is better than the other, but it is a very clear difference in work-life balance mentality.
Begin social, wishing to meeting people, not just strangers but friends and family, and feeling good to spend time with them. Because be a grumpy lone wolf dosnt pay off.
I want to be alone, I just don't want to be lonely. Which makes it hard to find friends, since most of the time I'm great just being on my own.
Coffee, it's just too bitter for me, and by the time I get it tasting okay, it may as well be a dessert. People seem to form half of their personality around how much they love coffee, it makes me feel like I'm missing out.
The problem might be the coffee itself. The stuff you buy at the store is often the cheaper robusta variety, which is known for its bitter taste. It's why it's cheap. Arabica coffee is smoother, and much less bitter in some cases. But anything from the store is also from multiple sources, meaning they take crops from all over the world and mix them together. Single source coffee is more expensive, but you can find varieties that are more delicate than store coffee and taste more fruity. Chances are you could find a kind you would be happy drinking with no added cream or sugar.
But then again, don't push yourself to try it. It's really no big deal if you don't like coffee. And honestly, it's not really good for you anyway, as caffeine is addictive and weaning yourself off of it can be a quite literal headache. Plus it raises your blood pressure, so depending on your health conditions, it might be really bad for you. You're not missing anything to be sad over. And I say that as a coffee lover.
If you're interested in trying to like it, there are a few technique changes I've made over the years that have made me enjoy it. If you're not interested, stop reading and enjoy your coffee free life. 😊
I used to only enjoy it from coffee shops and tolerate it when I made it at home, but I've learned a few tricks that helped.
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a pinch of salt in the grounds. Yes, a pinch. 1/16 to 1/8 tsp per pot of coffee. If you can taste the salt, it's too much. Got this tip from Alton Brown on Good Eats.
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preheat your water. The standard American drip coffee maker cannot heat the first cup or 2 of water to boiling. It comes out around 160-180. Got this from James Hoffman on his YouTube.
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lighter roasts. Dark roasts are like anything burned more.
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grind fresh beans with a burr mill. Bladed coffee grinders make inconsistent chunks and dust. Burr mills don't. Fresh beans have better and less bitter flavor.
The water and the salt tricks are easy. The lighter roast is more tricky bc grocery stores sell darker roasts. The burr grinder is harder bc they're not super popular, so you may have to look for one.
Math. I'm embarrassingly bad at math, like can't do it in my head, don't get the math meme jokes, can't add fractions even on paper bad. I took 3 remedial math classes in college before they let me take the one that actually counted for credit. Just thinking about doing math gives me anxiety. I know I could get all sorts of better-paying jobs if I was better at it, but it's like my brain refuses to learn it beyond the basics. I really envy anyone who's good at it.
Meat - I'm a vegetarian, though I take a lot of interest in cuisine, and while I may not eat meat personally, it's undeniable that it's a core ingredient for so many beloved dishes across the world. Maybe one day lab-grown or plant-based stuff will be able to serve as a common, cheap, and indistinguishable substitute, because I do want to appreciate all the food the world has to offer while sticking to my ideals as much as I can.
Lovey dovey feelings. My wife would be much happier if I was more open with them, and it wouldn't be so much work.
Reading novels (or just fiction, in general). Not sure why but I simply lost the ability to do it a few years ago. Still like to read a couple of nonfiction books every month, but feel like I'm missing something lately
I Think You Should Leave. I feel like something is wrong with me. On paper it should be right up my street and two of my closest friends (both of whom I have a near complete overlap with in comedy tastes) are massive fans but I just don’t get it? I get the jokes but I just don’t laugh. I feel like Bart in that episode of The Simpsons where he sells his soul when I watch it.
Onions. I wish to God I liked onions. Food is so hard for me sometimes because I can't stand them in almost every form. I travel a lot, and the hardest places not to offend anyone food-wise has been southeast Asia. So. Many. ONIONS.
Weed. Every time I try it, I regret it. I feel like with alcohol, I might be uninhibited, but feel in control internally. With weed, I feel like I can’t complete a thought internally and I hate it.
Sauces on foods. No, hear me out! Since I was young any kind of sauce on my food really bothers me. I just can't enjoy it and usually don't eat at all or pick around it if I can't get it removed.
Nearly every menu item and nearly every cuisine includes a sauce, and it's often prepared with the sauce in an unremovable state.
Fortunately it's easier these days than when I was young to order it on the side, so I can just not eat it. But it's a mild inconvenience that I'd never wish on anyone (except my enemies).
Sports. I'd be able to have conversations with neighbors, brother-in-laws, etc.
Nah, sports people need to learn how to have conversations about particle physics, error correcting code, stress-strain curves, preoteomic or epistemology.
Pickles. I love fermenting things (beer, bread, yogurt, cheese, jalapeños) but cucumbers are gross in any form.
Coriander/Cilantro.
I have the soapy gene and it would make me look like a total maniac.
IPA beers. Most of my friends like them but despite all the different IPAs Ive tried, not a single one of them was particularly enjoyable to drink.
Going to the gym... I know it's good for me, I know I should be going but I can't help but feel that I'm wasting my money, only to be doing something less productive that I don't really enjoy doing...
Also watching shows, ik one-piece is probably good, I'm not watching 1000 episodes of anything, no matter how good it is
Tomatoes. I like all kinds of things made from tomatoes but cannot stand them in their original form. I try them from time to time, big ones, little ones, all kinds, just to see if my tastes have changed, but so far nope. It’s especially odd because it don’t feel this way about any other kind of fruit or vegetables.
I was really hoping I'd enjoy Baldur's Gate 3. Apparently D&D is something I'm virtually allergic to, I hated the dice, controls, camera, dice, aesthetics at the start, FOMO and the wrong kind of "genre savvy" fucked me up about content getting locked out - basically I immediately hated all of it enough to put me off.
Shame, because it does seem like a seriously awesome game, just not for me.