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[–] paddirn@lemmy.world 11 points 13 hours ago

Meh. I knew going into the election that my vote would have little to no impact on this state, but I didn't realize a good portion of voters were just going to sit things out in the swing states, what the fuck was wrong with those people? Of course Republicans were going to vote Republican, but I thought I could count on people to turn out to save our country and vote against a dictatorship. Obviously not, and here we are.

The only possible thing working in our favor at this point is how utterly incompetent Trump and his ilk are, they'll be just as likely to infight amongst each other as they are to destroy the government.

I just hope that Ukraine can hold out or secure some kind of semi-favorable terms for peace out of the whole thing, they're the real ones that are getting fucked out of this whole thing. They've fought harder for their freedom than anybody else and we let them down.

[–] fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 6 points 14 hours ago

Disappointed. Trying to find meaningful ways to protect our migrants community here, so far it's just supporting the ACLU and trying, and so fucking reason it's hard to convince people another trail of tears would be bad.

[–] Trev625@lemm.ee 10 points 23 hours ago

Not great :(

[–] Azal@pawb.social 18 points 1 day ago

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAhahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Fuck.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

Lemmings gonna lem, but I blame the millions of Dems who stayed home because Kamala didn't meet their moral purity standards and they refused to be "complicit in genocide". Cuz everyone knows it's better to walk over broken glass barefoot than wear uncomfortable shoes, right? If some of the 10 million who voted in 2020 but not 2024 had bothered to show up, we'd be looking at a very different story. Righteous dumbfucks.

[–] bl4kers@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Campaigning is getting people to vote for you which includes getting people out to vote. Those are the true "swing" voters. Her campaign failed in this regard

[–] Klear@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

Yeah, it's not the fault of the voters, but a lack of advertisement.

God, I hate this timeline.

[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

I think Kamala could have been the perfect candidate and she still would've lost.

The economy being in the shitter under the Biden-Harris administration killed any possibility of either of them winning another term. The economy ended up being the single biggest issue for American voters. Way bigger than bodily autonomy for women, LGBT+ rights, or Palestine.

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[–] Neps@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am in an extremely red area of tx my next door neighbors fly like dont tred on me flags and confederate flags all the time and the whole neighborhood does stuff like that. Trying to move to a blue state with my partner (we are both nb) asap but it might be joever lmao.

[–] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe -4 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

Sorry about your lack of butts. One assumes you are referring to "no butt" disorder.

Edit: ohhhh I realized like 20 mins later you meant non-binary but since you're in a red state you think using the term partner is unusual even though that's become the standard in most of the blue states. Confused why you think "nb" is common though.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 11 hours ago

Confused why you think "nb" is common though.

Because it is, say it out loud and you get "enby" which is a common spelling of the same thing

[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world -3 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Lemmings in blue states, are you scared that you might get at the national level what you keep callously saying we deserve?

Because maybe if you had some fucking solidarity, there would be fewer red states. We're doing shitty, thank you for all the nothing, and you'll be right there with us soon.

[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Is this meant to be from the perspective of a right winger or a communist critique on class solidarity?

[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 4 points 13 hours ago

This is from the perspective of a blue voter in a red state. As long as something is a Red State Problem, Democrats in blue states figure that everyone in the state likes things as they are and deserves it.

If there was some solidarity with workers nationwide and not just in your own states. If there was solidarity with trans people instead of Democratic candidates parroting rightwing hate about "boys in girls sports." If there was solidarity on cannabis or abortion. If there were tangible benefits Democrats could point to that people in red states actually experienced, there would be fewer red states.

But no. Everyone in a red state deserves to be abandoned, regardless of how they vote.

[–] vxx@lemmy.world -4 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (1 children)

They get it, you deserve it.

Of course they're getting it, because they have been made the boogie man that made your state vote hate to harm them

I suspect because of envy

[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 6 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Have you considered that not everyone in red states are Republicans?

[–] vxx@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

Because maybe if you had some fucking solidarity, there would be fewer red states. We're doing shitty, thank you for all the nothing, and you'll be right there with us soon.

I don't believe you after that statement. That's at least two deadly sins.

[–] Maiq@lemy.lol 19 points 1 day ago

Fucking pissed but unsupprised.

[–] HelluvaKick@lemmy.world 33 points 1 day ago

Not great. Have a trans spouse and a young daughter who goes to public school. Have been burning through savings lately to pay off medical debt and am scared of losing my job once the tariffs kick in. My state just made homelessness illegal so the thought of the house of cards coming down is real

[–] TipRing@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am moving to a blue state as soon as possible. Work already lined up, working on housing and arrangements for my animals. It's not safe here.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

Safe travels friend

[–] card797@champserver.net 23 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I'm just giving up worrying and taking a break. I can't control these people. I'm gonna wait and see what happens and laugh at them when it blows up in our faces. Crying and laughing at the same time.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The tarifs are probably the first shitstorm. Buying any electronics and China-ware I preemptively think I'll need.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Car parts are going to go way up, that also means the cost of new and used cars is also going to go up, especially with interest rates stabilizing. I'm seeing used cars in the 200k-300k miles range for sale right now. Take care of your car and watch for rust, because that is going to have to last you a long time.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago

And also insurance rates are going to go up as well due to cost of repairs pushing many to drive illegally without insurance

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[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

I live in California, but I'm worried about just how much resistance a state can do against the Feds.

[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 41 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Depressed.

I haven't gone on walks for a bit because I just cannot stand seeing those fucking signs. My mom and grandma are in a tizzy, and my mom is just as forlorn. She doesn't even want to vote anymore.

And I'm so, so, so angry. I'm not saying Harris would be the second coming, but that anyone would pick a fascist over anyone is infuriating. The area I live in is not bougie, these signs were sometimes outside houses that have seen better days. And they doomed us all for at least the next four years. I'm so distrustful of my neighbors ~~not that we were close to begin with~~. I want to ask them why, I want to scream at them, I want to question them.

I feel helpless. All my life I believed that there was some thread of decency that connected us, a thread of common sense. But there's none. And that's really upsetting.

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[–] astla@midwest.social 30 points 1 day ago

Honestly I am so scared for my children. If Trump goes through with dismantling the Education department I do not trust my state at all not to destroy our public school system.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 70 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (10 children)

Pretty shit. Came out of the closet as trans to my parents just before the election after hiding dysphoria for nearly 20yrs (I'm 30). Unfortunately, the dysphoria has been intense enough that I'm so dissociated that I can barely function, so as you might imagine, I'm currently living with parents.

My dad's reaction was basically, "whoever the best you is, be that you".

My mom's reaction was "but you're my son... I always wanted to have a brother and you're kinda like that".

Meanwhile my grandparents voted for Trump after saying they wouldn't, and are now crying about it. Literally. My grandmother was in tears.

So my mom is also dealing with that, and possibly osteoporosis, which meant she said, "it's gonna take time to process this".

Then last night she told me that I wasn't allowed to start hrt until I moved out.

She refuses to let me tell her why I can barely function. She refuses to let me describe what I'm going through. She says she "can't handle it", that "it's not a top priority right now", that she's "trying to understand" why I've made this "choice" while also telling me things like "but I like you the way you are" and rejecting any information I send to her because she'd rather consult her friends that she "trusts more".

She starts to have a panic attack whenever I try to talk to her about it and God forbid I tell her that she made a mistake because then I obviously hate her guts and want her to die. She's literally accused me of that.

It hurts like hell but I don't know how to get out of this situation. I don't know how long it'll take hrt and therapy to get me on my feet all while not having a job. All this while in Texas. I'm fucking scared.

Edit: I also kinda wonder if I was born intersex and that's why my mom is freaking out. I'd think my dad would know and would say something, but idk. I've heard of times where one parent had an intersex kid """fixed""" without the other parent knowing. It honestly might explain some shit if I was born intersex.

[–] eccentric@lemm.ee 6 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

She refuses to let me tell her why I can barely function. She refuses to let me describe what I'm going through. She says she "can't handle it", that "it's not a top priority right now", that she's "trying to understand" why I've made this "choice" while also telling me things like "but I like you the way you are" and rejecting any information I send to her because she'd rather consult her friends that she "trusts more".

She starts to have a panic attack whenever I try to talk to her about it and God forbid I tell her that she made a mistake because then I obviously hate her guts and want her to die. She's literally accused me of that.

Those paragraphs reminded me of the !raisedbynarcissists@lemmy.ml community.

[–] Daze@sh.itjust.works 3 points 15 hours ago

Absolutely. It’s not about the transition at all, she just can’t stomach the idea of losing an inkling of control.

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[–] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 137 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (21 children)

I don't argue with people, I slowly explain to them what Republicans lawmakers are doing. Try as hard as possible not to be conescending.

I explain how Biden and Obama are better at convicting and deporting, why Trump's cruelty is so innefficient.

I explain that Trump said he had nothing to do with project 2025 and now Matt Walsh and Fox News are explaining their plans which coincidentally align with project 2025.

I explain the Trump Tax Plan, which is identical to last time, how it raised everybody's taxes below a certain amount.

Sometimes they tell me "but that Harris was an idjet" and I explain how she wanted to bring back child tax credits and vowed to never raise taxes on anyone below 400k annual earnings. They ask "well she didnt say that during the CNN Interview or debates!" and I direct them to her website where every single policy is laid out clearly.

Many of them do not understand the ramifications of the situation they have caused. They are completely unaware of the consequences of their actions, expect life to go on as if their side just won at sports without any impact on the real world. It is easy to ignore and be ignored if thats what you want to do in a red state.

When people try to threaten me I can be very intimidating as a result of my natural physique. Fear is something I will die before showing any of these people. They respect strength, the simple fools, it can get you far in their world.

That's how I do.

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[–] 7U5K3N@lemmy.dbzer0.com 117 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (40 children)

Married het cis male. Wife is absolutely bent out of shape due to our states bull shit abortion ban and with Trump being in office again. We had been talking about a second kiddo... But she told me that she wanted me to get a vasectomy Monday morning at 8am. She's not leaving her life in the hands of old dudes.

So.. I'm going to schedule it for inauguration day .

Other than that.. okay. Tho.. I did buy another carry gun. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

Edit: voted Dem all the way down ballot.

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[–] scoobford@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago

I was already planning on moving to Chicago next year, so...eh? I worry about our country for a lot of reasons, but none of them only apply to red state residents.

That being said, if I wasn't already moving I'd be getting the hell out of dodge. I don't have a uterus, but I know people who do, and I won't be party to the state suppression of their healthcare on religious grounds.

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