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[–] Carl@hexbear.net 49 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Giving a child a five minute time out is not fucking child abuse people it's one of the mildest things you can do.

[–] rootsbreadandmakka@hexbear.net 38 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I don’t think it’s the 5 minutes so much as it’s the making a kid stand in a corner facing the wall. I’m not sure if that constitutes “child abuse” but I’d never make a kid do that. Pull a kid away from what they’re doing when they’re misbehaving sure, make them sit out for a bit, but I don’t think creating a shame corner is very healthy

[–] CarmineCatboy2@hexbear.net 25 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I think that besides all that its also a... weird suggestion? 'Go to the shame corner and look at the wall!' sounds like something an alien would say when managing children. It comes across to me that they're not actually engaging with a discussion about permissive parenting, they're defending a specific practice which they think is legitimate. Without stopping and thinking about whether it makes sense.

I can imagine some hyperactive children I know hating the silence corner for all of 5 minutes before they forget it was even a thing. But the parents I know wouldn't even think of using it. They'd retract phone/toy/game privileges instead.

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 16 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Yeah, it's a humiliation ritual.

It's really too bad, because forcing a child to stop and think is actually really good and healthy. It's just been combined with this toxic and vindictive punishment mindset that treats children as animals that need to be trained.

[–] tim_curry@hexbear.net 31 points 6 days ago (2 children)

What is it with this website and shit takes recently?

It's a pointless regressive punishment that doesn't solve anything other than to shame the child and not actually understand or teach anything useful. Yeah wouldn't call it abuse its just backwards and completely useless at doing what its supposed to do. You could ynow try TALKING to the child who is also a sentient lifeform capable of reasoning.

Anyway the post is about how these arcane punishments didn't stop the school shooter doing ynow the shooting...

Hate this site

[–] Carl@hexbear.net 14 points 6 days ago (3 children)

YOU are implying that a person became a school shooter because they were abused. You can kindly fuck right the hell off.

Besides that point, nobody out here giving time outs isn't also talking to their child about what they did wrong.

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 13 points 6 days ago

nobody out here giving time outs isn't also talking to their child

this is such a silly position to hold when it's obviously impossible to back up. plenty of people use time-outs to mean "get the fuck out of my face i don't want to deal with you." idk why you believe otherwise, lots of people are shit parents.

[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 7 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

YOU are implying that a person became a school shooter because they were abused. You can kindly fuck right the hell off.

forced isolation isn't an effective punishment and while definitions of abuse vary you are saying yourself that it requires additional conversation.

I'll ask you these questions as well: What purpose does forced isolation serve?

What's an appropriate response to a child who will not go to or stay in the corner voluntarily?

nobody out here giving time outs isn't also talking to their child about what they did wrong.

You are fortunate to only know great parents, i suppose

[–] Dengalicious@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 6 days ago

You really think the parent who is posting memes about “disciplining their child” on Facebook is a well-rounded and loving mother?

[–] Parsizzle@lemm.ee 7 points 6 days ago

I think there was an exodus from reddit so Lemmy gets the lovely reddit opinions now 🙃

[–] invalidusernamelol@hexbear.net 12 points 6 days ago

There's a difference between giving a child a time out which is the mildest of the corporal punishments a parent can give, and posting about how good it is to give a child a time out on social media.

Especially when you're basically telling people "put your kids in time out, or I'll put them in solitary"