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Designed by men, for men: Why sex with robots does not have appeal among women (english.elpais.com)
submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by misk@sopuli.xyz to c/technology@lemmy.world
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[โ€“] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 308 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children)

I guess a vibrator isn't a type of sex robot?

Just saying that these sort of toys were way more normalized for women long before they were for men.

A man with a fleshlight was a gross weirdo, a woman with a vibrator is a strong independent woman taking control of her sexuality and not settling for the weakness of flesh in men.

[โ€“] python@lemmy.world 52 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Colloquially, the word "robot" always implies a certain amount of anthropomorphism. So no, I don't think a vibrator would count, as basically no vibrators on the market try to look human-like.

But that definitely is a weird difference between male and female sexuality - the sex toys women buy most are the very effective and utilitarian ones: Vibrator wands, Rabbits, Air pulse Vibrators etc.

While the most popular tools for men tend to focus on "realism"(?): Fleshlights, Sex Dolls, things like VR and POV porn. And I guess sex robots would fall into that category too in the future.

I can absolutely see the weirdness-factor of someone who is desperately trying to emulate a partner rather than just accept masturbation as a solo activity and optimize it from there ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

[โ€“] LaggyKar@programming.dev 74 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

A robot doesn't need to be anthropomorphic, an assembly line robot is still a robot. It does however need to be able to perform some actions autonomously, for which a vibrator hardly qualifies.

[โ€“] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 29 points 2 weeks ago

It does however need to be able to perform some actions autonomously, for which a vibrator hardly qualifies.

Fuck Machine has entered the chat

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[โ€“] barsoap@lemm.ee 32 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Overpriced pornstar-branded fleshlights aren't the only masturbators in town and it's not like there's no life-like dildos either. The long and short of it is that the mechanics of a lubed hole are superior to that of a hand and you're not looking at the entry point all the time so noone actually cares what they look like.

Yes, the branded stuff does exist, humans, male female, doesn't matter, enter parasocial relationships news at 11. Can you imagine how well Justin Bieber dildos would sell.

[โ€“] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago

Slap a pair of googly eyes on it and it as good as has a soul.

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[โ€“] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 15 points 2 weeks ago

This was my thought. Its the same way all our technology has grown. Honestly I think brain interfaces could eclipse robots like this before they are that great. As scary as that is.

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[โ€“] hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com 98 points 2 weeks ago (8 children)

Holy shit

[โ€“] remotelove@lemmy.ca 50 points 2 weeks ago

But FREE browsing! How revolutionary.

[โ€“] KSPAtlas@sopuli.xyz 37 points 2 weeks ago (9 children)

I've seen this more and more, it's fucked up and probably illegal

[โ€“] hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Think I've seen this twice now in the past couple years, but yeah it's likely not compliant with the cookie law in EU

[โ€“] hubobes@sh.itjust.works 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

This is perfectly legal, the law only says that the user must freely choose to allow the website to save said data. You can opt out here and not use that website.

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[โ€“] powermaker450@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 weeks ago

and this is why uBlock origin is the be all end all of extensions.

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[โ€“] towelie@lemm.ee 76 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Sex with a hella sexy robot? Nice.

Using a hella sexy robot to fill the emptiness of no intimacy or authentic mutual connection? Not nice.

For some reason sex with a robot doesn't feel gross to me โ€” until they start using it to fill a hole (hehe)

[โ€“] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

What about for people who struggle to have emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy throughout their lives because of medical issues or mental health issues?

My ex has a brother who is now pushing 40 and has never even held a woman's hand. He has severe mental disabilities and will never live life on his own without some kind of caretaker. We know he looked at porn, partially because he refused to ever let people fix up his computer, usually out of fear of people seeing his porn.

Does he not deserve emotional and sexual intimacy? There is a high likelihood he will never have it otherwise.

until they start using it to fill a hole

What about, like in the situation I just described, when that hole will otherwise go a lifetime of being unfulfilled? Is that fair to them for being born a way they didn't choose?

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[โ€“] essteeyou@lemmy.world 59 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Realistically how is a man going to design a good sex robot for a woman? Let a woman do that, they'll get what they want.

[โ€“] shalafi@lemmy.world 35 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Women already have the perfect sex bot. It's called a Sybian.

[โ€“] Jarix@lemmy.world 22 points 2 weeks ago (14 children)

And if that Sybian could pick you up, and stroke your thighs, massage your breasts, have hips and legs to simulate the sexual positions that it can't provide you, while still being what it is, there is a huge room for improvement on the design of the sybian and what great things it does

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[โ€“] bhamlin@lemmy.world 11 points 2 weeks ago (11 children)

โœ…: Does what it's asked to do

โœ…: Doesn't talk back

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[โ€“] WhatAmLemmy@lemmy.world 58 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

archive coz this site has aids

[โ€“] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Electro-gonorrhea, the noisy killer

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[โ€“] Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 46 points 2 weeks ago

Speak for yourself. Gimme that drama free dick.

[โ€“] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 36 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

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[โ€“] figjam@midwest.social 36 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

I will get a sex robot when it can scoop catboxes and fold laundry.

[โ€“] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You're into some weird shit but I respect it

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[โ€“] embed_me@programming.dev 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Genius! It will sell even without the sex

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[โ€“] Allero@lemmy.today 35 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Most men are not much into the idea, either.

Intimacy is something very human, something most people are not ready to trust a machine to do, even if it's capable of visibly empathetic reactions.

There is a desire to connect with another human being, not programmed to like you, but actually choosing you freely. It's what people call "feeling it real".

Most folks I have seen pushing for robotic partners are incels craving at least some form of closeness - having something like this might be better than nothing.

Also, dudes, let's be real: would you put your dick into a machine much stronger than you? Something goes wrong and you don't have your precious parts anymore.

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[โ€“] remotelove@lemmy.ca 34 points 2 weeks ago

All it took was one search to find plenty of contradictions to that post title.

[โ€“] RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 30 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

They don't ~~that~~ have that much appeal to me as well, and I'm a dude.

[โ€“] kemsat@lemmy.world 30 points 2 weeks ago (8 children)

I dunno, everyone was cool with the love story of Wanda & The Vision from the MCU. I guess fucking robots is not ok, but becoming emotionally attached to one is?

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[โ€“] shaggyb@lemmy.world 29 points 2 weeks ago

You're telling me women don't like vibrators.

[โ€“] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 28 points 1 week ago

Isn't that because women have had vibrators for decades?

[โ€“] Simulation6@sopuli.xyz 19 points 2 weeks ago

Make robots look like bears or dolphins?

[โ€“] sundrei@lemmy.sdf.org 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm no expert on attraction, but what if the sex robot looked like a skeleton?

[โ€“] Lawnman23@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I want to get off Mr. Bones Wild Ride.

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[โ€“] OldWoodFrame@lemm.ee 15 points 1 week ago (5 children)

I want to know what the state of the art AI sex robot is right now. Because they have those realistic-ish sex dolls, and some pretty advanced LLMs that can chat conversationally, and longer term memory is starting to get into the LLM repertoire so your bot can remember things about you and reference them later.

I feel like we're 3-5 years away from a high end AI prostitute startup becoming huge.

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[โ€“] flemtone@lemmy.world 12 points 2 weeks ago

In this current age of western dating Sex Bots at least cut out all of the bullshit for many men and give you basic companionship with the perks of sex, which is a lot easier for some than dating.

[โ€“] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 12 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

https://youtu.be/urS8GmwmeWQ

[off topic]

From the movie Cherry 2000. In the movie the hero has just lost his sex robot and is trying to date human women for the first time in a while.

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[โ€“] match@pawb.social 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

does that make it gay

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[โ€“] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Maybe some men like the idea, but I bet most of them would soon find the experience less fulfilling than they had hoped.

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