Confidence isn't about being confident but acting confident. Act confident and life will be a lot easier.
Except if you want to do good science. Good scientists will identify false confidence and will aim to steer well clear of it
Leave it better than you found it.
Goes for your home, your neighborhood, or something you've borrowed. It can be applied to the planet, the beach, the trail, the car, the job.
Hell, it even goes for people. Leave them a little happier, a little wiser, a little more prosperous than before.
Second rule, give people the benefit of the doubt and don't attribute an action as the person. Did they cut you off on the road? They're having a bad day and made a mistake. They're speeding? Maybe they are on the way to see a loved one without much longer to live. Don't call someone an asshole just because they made an asshole move. People are so much more than that one interaction with them.
Slow is smooth and smooth is fast.
Ride smooth not fast has won me some mountain bike races.
I first heard it in the context of carpentry, but I've since heard it in kitchens as well.
Think before you speak, I speak without thinking and it's got me in trouble for petty things. Using WE over YOU is extremely valuable.. even when you had nothing to do with the problem it is OUR problem.
"We" should vacuum the house! *wink* *wink*
Be kind
Simple and to the point, everyone should know and follow this. One of the best pieces of advice from the Dalai Lama
"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them."
Evaluate how much something matters based on 1 day, 1 month, 1 year.
I.E. How upset should you be over [Thing]? Will it matter in one day? One month? One year? That helps perspective a bunch. You can use any variation of time really, the point is perspective
Corporations aren’t your friend. Avoid the publicly-traded ones seeking quartely profits the most. If it isn’t a massive burden, find an alternative—avoiding some is better than none.
I'd add "Don't defend any corp".
Not just talking to the Tesla bros either. I mean ANY corp. Including Steam.
You can show support. But if/when they do something shitty, don't be a bootlicker.
Same with working. I've worked at a few major tech companies. No matter how many rainforests they saved or houses they built. At some point, a bad decision will infuriate you, or a new directive will aim for profits and people lose their jobs.
They're not your friend.
Listen or act like you're listening. People love the validation that comes with being given undivided attention. The opposite is also true.
You need to sleep.
If you find yourself in a hole, first step is to stop digging.
Reminder me of this
"What to do if you find yourself stuck with no hope of rescue: Consider yourself lucky that life has been good to you so far. Alternatively, if life hasn't been good to you so far - which, given your present circumstances, seems more likely - consider yourself lucky that it won't be troubling you much longer." Douglas Adams
It's okay to ask for help.
If you don't have time to do something right what makes you think you have time to do it twice?
Respect other people's time. When dealing with a busy person in a professional context;
- Emails should be as short as possible while still conveying the needed information, don't make a busy person excavate the relevant info from somewhere near the middle of the fifth paragraph.
- Whenever possible phrase a question in a way that can be answered in one word.
Sometimes good enough is good enough.
Never take time for granted - expect you'll have less of it than you want or need.
It can really help with getting priorities straight - whether that's with work or with your personal life. Where is it exactly you want to spend the most valuable and limited resource you have? Your time?
Don't be an asshole.
Treat others as you would like to be treated
EDIT: AS NOT ARE. Fucking autocorrect
What if you’re a masochist? Wouldn’t it be better to treat others as they would like to be treated?
If it sounds too good to be true - it probably is.
People are more helpful if you're nice to them.
Never tie your finances to that of a crazy person.
Take your time, slow and steady is faster than quick and dirty
Anyone who wants to tell you what is right and what is wrong does not have your best interests at heart, they have their own.
never tell the whole truth
This is dumb, and in many cases outright illegal.
If you are giving testamony in court you are required to tell the whole truth regarding the situation.
There are absolutely other times when you should tell the whole truth, so this statement is just dumb.
Even in court you have to use some judgment to determine what the whole truth is, under what context, and to the extend of your memory or a reasonable expectation of enforcement of the idea.
There's also limitation with self incrimination/5th.
But as a generality, omitting information on socials, whatever registration form, etc... In everyday life is a reasonable practice for preserving privacy.
Being dishonest with friends & family is messed up tho.
Never borrow money from a man whose first name is "The" and never gamble with a man whose first name is a city.
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